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We think my fiances son is being abused by his mother: How can we get full custody?

My fiancee has a five-year-old little boy, and we have a four-month-old little girl together. His son’s mom has been awful towards me ever since we got together. She’s threatened me and harassed me. She blamed me for my father’s death, threatened my life, and told me she hoped I miscarried. At the time, I was living across the country and just recently moved to where my fiancee lives. Long story short, I believe shes abusing her son. My fiancee currently has 50/50 custody with her. We get his son half the week. Almost every time we get him he’s either sick or covered in bruises he can’t explain(I think he’s scared to) and lately he’s been losing a lot of weight.. he’s only 28lbs at 5 years old and fits into 3t.. our 4-month-old is almost half that, and she was 3lbs at birth. Anytime he comes to us; he’s starving. I make home-cooked meals every night, and every time he eats as fast as possible and always thanks me. It could be the most straightforward meal, and he’ll just go nuts and woof it down like he hasn’t eaten in days. We’ve tried asking him what he eats …

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My exes girlfriend keeps starting drama on facebook: Help?

My ex has this girlfriend who’s a drama lover. She’s always posting negative uncalled things on Facebook about me. My kids see it. They have a child together. Our oldest (15 yrs old) got fed up with it, and I didn’t know she had contacted her dad and told him that she’s never coming back to his house cause of how his girlfriend treats me. He just shrugs it off like it’s nothing to him. He says he tells her to stop, but she won’t. I don’t post on Facebook about them. It’s not the time or the place. My kids refuse to go there because of her actions. I’ve even had people tell me she’s a disease and will do anything to destroy my kids so she can have their father to herself and their child. What do I do? I’m lost, and my heart goes out to my kids. Talking to their dad does no good! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My boyfriend got a call from a strip club at midnight: Do I have the right to be upset?

Hi, I am quite confused right now as this happened just yesterday: I am 8 weeks pregnant with my second child with my boyfriend. Last night, my boyfriend and my brothers in law got together for drinks at home. Then I decided to go out for food after the drinks. All went well after, and so my boyfriend slept when they arrived back home. I could not sleep because of nausea every midnight. Just when I was about to sleep, my boyfriend’s phone rang once. My gut feeling told me to get his phone and check. On the phone was a caller named Janet and the name of a well-known strip club. I immediately called back the number and put it on record. She answered and asked if he was still coming over. I didn’t speak, and she dropped the call. I saved the voice record, took photos of his call log under her name. The saved number was recent, but he still called her a couple of times prior to that midnight. I woke him up to confront him, and he said he did nothing wrong, he was supposed to take my brothers in law since one of them …

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I don’t want to go to my fiances mothers thankgiving: Am I wrong?

Ever since my fiancé and I got together it’s been nothing but the drama between his ex-wife and his mother hated me for no good reason, I treat his daughter like me own and even let them daddy-daughter time together. His mother said he was too good for me, and he needs to stop playing dad to my children, she’s called me clingy and has talked down on how I have three kids from different men which I believe has nothing to do with anything. His ex-wife doesn’t like me because god knows why but threats to call dcf on me if he daughter ever gets hurt when she’s at my house or if we’re at the park but yet she’ll ask if her daughter can come over when she wants to spend time with her friends. With all of that he’s still trying to make me go to his mothers for thanksgiving and Christmas and yes his ex will be there because it will make his daughter happy when I think we should just have or own thanksgiving and Christmas he can go to his moms to be with them @2 then come home to eat with us @6 …

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My in laws are buying my baby things that I wanted to buy: Am I over reacting?

I have a ten-month-old baby, and he is the first grandbaby for my in-laws, and with the holidays coming, they are buying him my first thanksgiving outfit, and also they just got him my first Christmas PJs. These don’t bother me that much, but they also got him an ornament that says my first Christmas and his name on it. Am I wrong for being so upset about this? I feel like this should be something I buy for him. They didn’t even ask before they got it. I don’t know what to do because it bothers me. I tell my husband and he just says I didn’t know what to say? I’m at my wits end with their need to be in control. Help please any advice would be GREAT Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My brother in laws wife cheated and won’t let them back in their house: Advice?

Okay, so my brother in law(husbands brother) Is in a jam. His wife is cheating on him with a married man but still lives in the house that my brother in law pays for. She always threatens him with the kids and has even threatened the kids that if they tell daddy about her lover, they will never see him again. She had also told the kids that her married boyfriend broke her heart by getting married. She has four kids with my brother in law. She told him that she would call the cops if he doesn’t stay out of the house he pays for. She told him that he needed to get the kids out of the house this Saturday, but she isn’t allowing him to take them to his family’s house. The only time she wants anything to do with my brother in law is when he gets his paycheck. I knew her from before they got married because our moms were friends. She used to try and rub herself all over her mom’s boyfriends. She has also caused a lot of drama for the family. He has also bought her a brand new car that she …

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I am concerned with my husbands work relationship: Advice?

Mine SO got a partner at his work that he speaks very highly of. She is young and beautiful, and they have a really good work bond. I didn’t think anything of it at first because he has a lot of friends from work, but recently he just stopped talking about her, when he would always tell me what happened at work (good/bad) and he spoke about her more often than not. The last few things that he said was how he had called up some of his friends (whom I have never met) and had them come and hang her name sign up to surprise her before she came into work. He has never done anything like that for me. I’ll be lucky to get a card, and we never go out together, and I always tell him how I want to go out together. He even found a babysitter but never calls or texts them to see if they can watch the kids for a couple of hours. And then the other day he told me about his plans to go back to school to get his MS degree and him and his partner (the woman he surprised) …

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I have anxiety and depression and cannot tell if I am over reacting: Advice?

Am I being ridiculous? I’m upset with my partner because they went to a place with their family that I expressed just last week wanting to go to. When I said how I felt, they responded “I’m not going to not go with my family so we can go for the first time.” This hurts my feelings more because they totally could have said ‘no thanks, my girlfriend really wants to go with me. I’ll wait until I can go with her.’ My birthday is Monday, and at this rate, I’m questioning whether they will even come to my bday party or get me anything. Keep in mind, I struggle with severe depression and anxiety w/panic attacks, and I’m waiting on med refills. I cannot tell if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid. I told them I didn’t want to talk for a bit because I needed to gather my thoughts. I didn’t want to say something that would make me look like an ass while I was in such an emotional state. Please, no bashing. Am I in the wrong and just overreacting due to my mental health shit? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a …

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How long should my ex be with his girlfriend before our child meets her?

Quick question. My ex just started seeing someone and wanted to take our son to a movie with his new girlfriend. I really don’t care that he has a new girlfriend. Good for him, he’s finally moving on. What I don’t like is subjecting my child to a relationship that might never work and having people come in and out of his life. My question is how long should it be that you ex is seeing someone else before a child should meet the new person? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

*NO BASHING* I do not trust my husband and want to leave: Please help!

I’ve been struggling for the last four years with an extremely unhealthy amount of distrust. After being together six years and having two kids, my husband and I finally got married four years ago. We fought constantly, but always worked things out. Four months after we were married, we had a fight, and he decided it was over, but he wouldn’t leave, and I had nowhere to go. He spent weeks not speaking to me and talking to females on dating sites. At one point, I found a hidden camera disguised as a clock sitting on our tv stand spying on me. I was absolutely furious! I went through his email to find where he purchased this, and it turned out that he had bought not one, but two spy cams off of eBay. He “couldn’t remember” where he put the other one, gave it to someone at work, just every excuse you could imagine. He honest to god thought he did nothing wrong, and his excuse was that he wanted to watch me fondle myself because I would never do it in front of him. Somehow we managed to get passed all of this. Fast forward a little bit, …

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*No bashing* I feel unattached from my baby due to abuse from their dad: Thoughts?

Is it normal to feel unattached from your unborn child after experiencing non-stop verbal abuse and occasional physical abuse from the father? I can’t stop thinking the child will grow up to be exactly like him, and I feel horrible for the feelings I’m having. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My husband leaves a lot for work, I feel lonely and depressed: Advice?

My husband is gone again for another 8 months, we have an almost 3 and 4mo, has been 3 weeks since he left , and I’m already giving up with this ( If you are wondering yes I have a great group of friends, but also they have families, and sometimes I just don’t want to bother them with my problems). Here is the thing I stay at home with my kids, but is getting worse between fits, crying, not wanting to eat, fits again, no sleeping, not even saying trips to the store, a few nights ago my older one was throwing a badly fit and with no intention hurt my nose, I was bleeding by inside of my nose and from a little cut of the outside, that was the final call, I sat, cried and cried, that cry that you cant simply stop, while my little one just wants to be held, bot wanting to be alone hard for me get stuff around the house. So I’m wondering how you girls go through this and survive, I love my husband I really do, but this situation of him being gone and me staying with the kids for …

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My husband is obsessed with his xbox: Advice?

My husband and I have two kids between us. About a year ago, my husband bought an Xbox, so we had something to do in our free time. But now lately he’s become obsessed. It has affected him helping out with the kids when he gets home and is now causing him to be late to work every day. I’ve talked to him about it before when he would stop helping me with the kids at night and him just jumping on once he got home. He has improved a little on it but still half-ass things like helping clear the table, picking up toys, or putting the kids in bed. He is now getting to work super late because he ignores his alarms. I get it he wants to have his free time and relax, but it’s so difficult explaining to him that I need help with the kids. I always have dinner ready for him when he’s home so he can see and spend time with the kids and me but once he’s done eating he’s running to the Xbox, and I’m left to clean up and get the kids ready for bed and then waiting on him …

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My husband sometimes yells at our daughter and I dislike it: Advice?

My husband is a good father when he is good. We had our daughter eight months ago. He has been very loving, attentive, caring, etc. since birth. However, he struggles with his temper in general in life. He sees an anger therapist (per my request) as he often has one reaction (anger) to anything. He has never physically assaulted me or anyone, but emotional/verbal can be bad enough. He does not do this every day, but whenever he is frustrated, he will get upset. Most recently, he watches our daughter when I go to work, and he wakes up with her primarily. He will get frustrated at her at times when she is crying and tell her to shut up or knock it off. I yell at him, but this is rare for him to do. When I do, he tells me I am overreacting and that it’s really not a big deal. I have given him an ultimatum, he needs to work on it, or he needs to leave. I don’t fear of him hurting her, but I do fear eventually his words will hurt her. It is one thing to do to me, another to do to her…I …

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Should I tell my mother in law how she is making me feel or let it be?

I have been having an issue with my mother in law. My husband and two children and I currently live and rent out rooms from her home. She convinced us to move in when my husband was transitioning to a job closer to here. We are planning to move out in the next few months. So here’s the issue. When we first moved in, everything went great. We got along really well. I always went out of my way to clean, cook, pay her bills, which she asked me to do for her. And many other things she asked of me. I have literally done any and everything she’s asked me to and has always treated her with kindness and respect. A few months ago, she just started to say things here and there like little jabs. It started when we went for a walk together, and she told me she told her daughter how annoying I was. She talks about my skin, my hair, how I dress, what I cook. She talks about my parenting and how my son loves her the most, and she’s the only one who plays with him, which is so completely untrue. It seems …

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My friend constantly compares our children and I want it to stop: Advice?

How do you politely tell your friend her constantly putting her child in competition with mine needs to end? My child is 5 months older than my friends and she is constantly asking when my child did this or that and gets noticeably upset and silent if mine does something first and overly giddy if hers ends up doing it first. It’s like she’s keeping a record of absolutely everything and I don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with her anymore she is just way too obsessed with milestones. She keeps a weekly record and is using my child as a comparison. I don’t want my child to be a competition and honestly feel bad for hers. It’s like she uses him as an extension of herself and gets disappointed in him if he didn’t do something before another baby. I’m not only annoyed but concerned. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.