Extended Family

How Can I Help My Grown Stepchildren Learn to Fend for Themselves and Generally Become Better Adults?

How Can I Help My Grown Stepchildren Learn to Fend for Themselves and Generally Become Better Adults?

A mom writes in asking for advice about getting her grown stepchildren to fend for themselves. This mom says she tragically lost her own daughter, but she raised her husband’s two children. She says one of those children, now aged 22, brought his girlfriend home to this mom’s home. She says they proceeded to do literally nothing except lay in bed and watch TV. They did not get jobs or help around the house. Their unhygienic habits caused an infestation of bugs that cost $2000 to fix. How can this mom help her stepchild and his girlfriend learn to fend for themselves and “move on with life.”

My Grandmother Doesn't Respect My Parenting Rules or Wishes: Advice?

My Grandmother Doesn’t Respect My Parenting Rules or Wishes: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her grandmother. She says her grandmother — her son’s great grandmother — refuses to respect her parenting rules. She cites a couple of examples, including a time she told her son he was not allowed to go in the pool at his great grandmother’s house, only to turn around and watch her grandmother let him go into the pool. She also says she has repeatedly asked her grandmother not to kiss her son on the face, but she frequently kisses him on the lips. This mom is fed up and is tempted to withhold her son until things change; is that wise?

Should This Mom Have to Buy Car Seats for Her Children's Grandparents' Car?

Should This Mom Have to Buy Car Seats for Her Children’s Grandparents’ Car?

A mom writes in asking for advice about car seats. She is wondering if she should be required to buy additional car seats for her parents, her children’s grandparents, who watch the children sometimes. Is this mom obligated to buy those additional car seats herself, or should her parents buy their own car seats for their grandkids?