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My husbands mom is very demanding: Advice?

Anonymous, please!! I just want honest feedback because I’m made out to be selfish from my in-laws. Long story short. My husband and I have one child 19; we also have a child who is 4. While our daughter is in college in another state, it’s just the three of us. My youngest was adopted at birth because we were not able to conceive, so he was a huge blessing after many failed fertility attempts. My husband’s mother is a very selfish lady, disguised in sheep’s clothing. She had other children but is obsessed with my husband. She puts our children last all the time if they’ve even thought about it at all. She has used my husband financially all of our marriage. She became ill around two years ago. My husband stays with her more than myself and my children. I want him to help his mother but not as much time as he’s spending away from our youngest. He’s missed so many important things because of his demanding mother. He even missed Christmas Eve and Christmas away from my children. She doesn’t even live an hour away. It’s like she gets a thrill of seeing how much he’ll …

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My sons dad’s family constantly talks badly about me: Advice?

My son’s dad and I have been together since we were teenagers. We share a four-year-old son. We got married & separated three years ago. We decided to make things work, but his family hates me and makes my life impossible. They are always judging & criticizing me. They always talk bad about me. We both made mistakes, but it seems like what he did goes unseen & I am the bad one. I try to be understanding respectful. It is so hard when they are always saying nasty things to him about me, but it just seems like it will never work with his family always getting in the way. Has anyone ever gone through this? Does it get better? Should I just stop trying and let things go? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Who should pay the babysitter?

My husband and I are going away for my cousin’s wedding. We can’t take the kids (they weren’t invited). My mother in law is watching them overnight but asked if I could get her some help for a few hours since she’ll be with them overnight. I got a sitter to come to help her with baths, dinner, and bedtime (coming at 3/4 staying until 9). My question is… who should be responsible for paying for the sitter? Me or my MIL? Let me say I’m willing to do it, but I think she should be able to handle the kids without help (my mother had taken my kids for long weekends on occasion with no issue). Advice, please? TIA Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How can we tell my partners family that we want to move?

My partner and I are wanting to relocate to my home town, which is a few hours away by car as there is more support therewith for our children and us and better job prospects for my partner. We are worried about how to tell my partner’s family this. Please does anyone have any advice? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My ex-boyfriends mom always gives me advice I do not want: Thoughts?

How do I explain to my ex-boyfriend’s mom that while I value her opinion and advice and whatnot, I don’t always want it? (I’ll explain the situation with the ex-boyfriend at the end of this) His mom is a wonderful woman. But SO, overbearing. While he and I were together, she was constantly on his bank account, asking about this and that. And in his emails asking about this and that. And I would call me 500 times if he didn’t answer his phone or text her back. She lost her mind when he moved out and in with me. When he joined the navy, she got PISSED that he sent me letters and called me every chance he got. She was constantly asking to read the letters and demanded to know what we spoke about. And now that I’m pregnant, she’s so much worse. She won’t quit asking if she can go to the doctor’s appointment that shows us the gender of the baby. He and I have both told her no numerous times, but she won’t quit. She keeps touching my stomach even after being told that I’m uncomfortable being touched by anyone. She threw a fit and …

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I am done going places I do not feel comfortable: Am I over reacting?

I’ve been with my partner for seven years now. We’ve two kids together. I live in a different city from he’s family 5 hours away. We used to live there before, and we wouldn’t get visits from any of the family that maybe like twice, but that was all! I understand everyone has a life, plus I’m fine with it. Idc! Lol, Now we live back where I’m from and still no visits… We’ve gone a couple of times and visit and holidays. This year was my year to stay with my family only my mother in law came and got my boys gifts.. the grandpa nothing(which is my father in law) (they’re divorced).. my little boys birthday was the next day still no call from the grandpa, or he’s wife… My partner wants it to go to the end of the month. I disagreed in my part. I’m done going to places where I’m not comfortable at… I talked to my husband about it, and he tried to make me seem like if I’m unfair and selfish… what do y’all think about this situation? Plus, this month is my birthday, and I really want to spend it with my …

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My husbands family doesn’t treat my son like a grandchild: Advice?

Need advice. My husband’s family has never treated my son as part of their grandchildren. Now that I am pregnant with my husband’s child, they can’t wait for her to be here and want to do all sorts of things for her. Should I let them? Should they get to spend time with one and not the other. I feel (and my husband does too) that it will be unfair to my son for them to want to be apart of her life so vigorously but not his. What should I do? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My mother in law is overbearing: Advice?

Does anyone else have an extremely overbearing MIL? Mind you; when i was pregnant, she never asked how I was up until the home stretch. She comes over every weekend, and as soon as she walks through the door, she says, “my baby!” Or “grandmas girl!”. Cant hold a conversation for one minute because she’s busy with baby talk or letting my baby touch all over her face that’s usually covered in makeup. It’s the same thing on Facebook. Any picture I posts, she comments the same stuff or posts it on her profile saying, “my baby” Am I wrong to be so annoyed by this???? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My mother-in-law is a nightmare: Advice?

My husband and I have had to block his mother because she has become a witch. She caused a huge problem on social media after he was born because I wasn’t comfortable having her in the room and has shown narcissistic tendencies ever since she just continued to harass us. Has anyone else had any issues of the same with their mothers-in-law? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How do I deal with a crazy mother in law?

How does everyone deal with crazy mother in laws?! Mine is so crazy she never leaves us alone. She always has to know what we are doing every day. She is constantly telling us how to raise our child, what we should and shouldn’t be feeding him. She goes against anything we say when she babysits him. If she’s over for dinner, she makes up her plate before I can and only gives her what she wants and mashes it up (she’s almost 2) she doesn’t eat mashed food anymore he likes to feed himself. She still buys the baby purée food from the store for him and always telling me I shouldn’t be giving him certain foods. She’s also telling us that she’s making an appointment for our son to get baptized despite our wishes, which we have told her multiple times we will decide later. Plus, she gets angry when we don’t call every two days. We have to spend every holiday with them which I explained we eventually would spend Christmas’s at our own house with our own kids (she has three kids) she expects everyone and their kids to get together every holiday and if you …

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My MIL gives my baby cake and tea: How can I tell her to stop?

How do I tell my mother in law to stop feeding my one-year-old black tea and cake? She comes from a generation that believes that me telling her what to do when she had lots of kids before, would be disrespectful. I tried once to explain to her that the baby is too young to have caffeine (black tea), and she told me straight away she doesn’t believe in this crap. Now I have been very ill for the last couple of days, and while I’m very grateful that she looks after the little one, it makes my blood boil when I see that she gets feed toast soaked in a copious amount of black tea, followed by Indian sweets … And the list goes on. How do I approach and explain? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I think my partners family is toxic: What should I do?

I’m stuck on what to do; I don’t want my partner’s family involved with my daughter until she can decide for her self. I believe my partner’s family is toxic for multiple reasons, and I don’t feel like my daughter or myself is safe with them. I was 15 when I conceived my daughter turned 16 whilst pregnant my partners family tried pressuring me into having an abortion when I refused they turned against me my MIL made my partner move home and filled his head with lies about me she wouldn’t let me over and wouldn’t let him out to see me. I went to her house to pick up some of my stuff, and she had a go at me yelling till her face was red, so I apologized and left my partner defended me and left with me. Since that day, I have been receiving nasty messages from his whole family I’m now at a point where I feel uncomfortable down the street in case I bump into them. I’ve tried so hard with his family especially his mum she wouldn’t talk to me my entire pregnancy then as soon as she heard I was in the …

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How do you deal with bitter baby momma and MIL drama?

My bf and I have been together for four years. We have a three-year-old and one on the way. For two years out of our relationship, I have dealt with his other kid and the mother disrespect from both upset that we are together and he had moved on and had another baby I’ve dealt with the name-calling the prank calls I’ve changed my number several times she has also had friends threatening me, showed up to my job she had her son displaying the same behavior towards me anytime I said hello or asked how he was doing I told my bf about it and he did nothing besides saying that I should keep my mouth shut and don’t say anything because it is not my place. Fast forward time they communicate back and forth because of the child obviously, and every time they talk she always has to bring up my name and now my daughter which we have nothing to do with their situation I’m starting to get annoyed with the bullshit from her, and I’m not going to hold my tongue any longer I’ve been nice enough I yet again tell my bf, and he says …

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My MIL wants to come over for Christmas but she has the flu: Advice?

I have a dilemma and don’t know what to do. I just found out my MIL has the flu. She is still saying she wants to come over for Christmas, but I don’t want her to infect my entire family with the flu. I told her how I felt about this, and she still insists that she is coming. How should I handle this? I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time, I need to think of my kid’s health. Advice? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My in-laws get offended because my 5-month-old won’t them them hold him: Advice?

My five-month-old is dealing with “stranger anxiety,” but towards family members, he doesn’t usually see often. We can go out in public to restaurants and stores, and he is totally fine. However, when he sees my in-laws, he will scream and cry and becomes inconsolable. I try to be sensitive to him, and I do not force him to be held by any of them or interact if he’s upset. I do try to give him some space. However, they seem to be uncomfortable and upset about it. He’s been doing this since he was four months old. Any tips on how to help him feel more comfortable around them? Also, how long does this phase typically last? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My MIL is mad that I wanna spend Christmas with just my kids: Advice?

To start, my husband & I have two kids under four years old and live in the same town as both of our parents (the kid’s grandparents). Several months ago my hubs & I had a conversation regarding holidays. Every single holiday is spent running around to make sure we see both families, it’s stressful for me, and it’s really making me hate holidays instead of enjoying them – this includes Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Halloween, Mother’s & Father’s Day. When we spoke about it, I expressed my desire to start spending Christmas at home with our children, only starting NEXT year so that we can create our own family traditions. He agreed, and the conversation was over. We shared this news with my family; they agreed it was a good idea and had absolutely no complaints. Well..I told his mother today; she didn’t say much, so I assumed it was a done deal. My husband gets home from work & I find out his dad sent him a text, and everyone is now upset with me. My husband now agrees with his parents, saying we should spend Christmas with them, and when he was talking to his dad, he basically …

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Do I have a right to be upset with my inlaws?

Due to issues with my in-laws, my husband & I decided to cut them out because everything was so toxic for our family. We decided to give another chance, but once again, things are more important than our children. They are coming up to spend time with our four kids while I am being induced. Are we wrong for being upset that they offered to pay a sitter to watch our kids on the 23rd &24th instead of coming up because they want to spend their last Christmas in their house they sold? They haven’t seen our kids in over 3 yrs. Now they are saying that they are leaving at 7 am Christmas eve whether I have the baby or not. I’m being induced at 37 weeks due to several issues, with one being I have heart failure, and everything is more important to them than seeing and spending time with the kids. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My MIL hates me: Advice?

My mother in law I live with… she has three grandkids first being a boy ( he has a different mom ) then my girls… when I started my relationship with her son she didn’t like me or me being around her grandson. I got pregnant, never asked how baby and I were… fast forward some time… we live together, and I can’t stand how some days she ignores her youngest daughter and me is so mean to my kids, and she says nothing. Got to a point where we argued, and I told her if she doesn’t like me, that’s fine, but she will not treat my kids like they’re any less than her grandson or let her daughter treat my girls like rag dolls. Since that day she doesn’t talk to me after she told me we should get along and not fight we’re “family”. My husband is working hard so we can get out of this house fast. I’m a SAHM. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.