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My Mother In Law Asks To Take My 6-Month-Old All The Time: Am I Wrong For Saying No?

My Mother-in-Law Treats My Newborn Like He’s Her Own Son, and It’s Hard for Me: Advice?

A first-time mom writes in looking for advice on how to deal with a situation concerning her mother-in-law. A first-time mom from our community asks: “I would love to get some advice about my mother-in-law. A little something to keep in mind, she lost her 30-year-old son- my husband’s brother, to suicide seven years ago. She and I haven’t had a great relationship, I am very independent, and as soon as her son and I got married, I felt like she wanted me as her daughter to do things with. We did a few things, but we just are totally different people; it was always awkward. I always feel like she resents me for this. We continued to have weekly dinners, the 3 of us until I was eight months or so pregnant. As soon as I had the baby, she constantly was asking when she can keep him at her house, which made me feel uncomfortable. I had nightmares of her stealing him. First-time mom here. I eventually returned back to work, and she watches him at her house two times a week. Fast forward to now, a year later, she keeps asking when he can stay the night …

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My in laws try to over parent my husband and I: Advice?

I need advice on in-laws. My in-laws are amazing people, but when it comes to their grandson, they will do whatever he wants regardless of what my husband and I think of it. My father-in-law will say out loud as he does something. “I know mom said no, but I don’t care.” It’s always said as a joke, but my son is 18 months old, and I don’t want that to become the standard. Overall it’s not a big issue, but right now, my son is going through a phase where he is throwing food at meals, throwing fits because he thinks it’ll get him what he wants, etc. and my father-in-law just feeds into it. If my son throws something on the floor and my husband and I are telling him no, my father-in-law is laughing and throwing stuff too. I’m at a loss. I know he doesn’t mean harm by it, but it’s not helping, and my son thinks it’s funny. We see them minimum every Saturday for the afternoon/evening, and the behavior is something my son is bringing home with him. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain …

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How should I talk to my husband about this?

My brother in law is extremely overbearing, or is, is it my husband? So my husband and his brother are close. That’s great for them. But the entirety of our relationship, his brother has always been in our business. When we got together years ago, they lived in the same house with their parents. His brother was non stop in hubby’s bedroom, I mean ALWAYS. We always tried to hint at him to leave, but he would just sit at the end of the bed and be on his phone. Super weird, in my opinion. But anyway, when we finally moved out on our own, I made it very clear to hubby that this was our home and his brother can not just come over whenever he pleases as I have two children to take care of(from the previous relationship) and it’s just not his house. My hubby was fine with that, but what’s annoying is he would just go to his parent’s house every single day to hangout with his brother. I mean literally every single day. I continued to voice my opinion on it because why are we together if he can’t make time for me but can …

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My in laws try to parent our son over us: Advice?

I need advice on in-laws. My in-laws are amazing people, but when it comes to their grandson, they will do whatever he wants regardless of what my husband and I think of it. My father-in-law will say out loud as he does something. “I know mom said no, but I don’t care.” It’s always said as a joke, but my son is 18 months old, and I don’t want that to become the standard. Overall it’s not a big issue, but right now, my son is going through a phase where he is throwing food at meals, throwing fits because he thinks it’ll get him what he wants, etc. and my father-in-law just feeds into it. If my son throws something on the floor and my husband and I are telling him no, my father-in-law is laughing and throwing stuff too. I’m at a loss. I know he doesn’t mean harm by it, but it’s not helping, and my son thinks it’s funny. We see them minimum every Saturday for the afternoon/evening, and the behavior is something my son is bringing home with him. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain …

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I do not feel comfortable with my boyfriends mom staying with us: Advice?

I’m 36 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend has agreed to let his mother, her fiancée, and little sister come to visit and stay with us in our two-bedroom apartment the week after I am expected to be due. I have only met these people twice, and we have only exchanged maybe ten words in those meetings. I have tried multiple times throughout my pregnancy to make the mother feel included, yet she only communicates with her son. I have communicated to my s/o that I do not feel comfortable with them staying here, with me being a first-time mother and trying to adjust to life with a new baby and recovering from delivery myself – I’d prefer not to have to do so in front of a crowd of pretty much strangers. He is upset and feels I am selfish for wanting them to stay elsewhere. Am I selfish or should I stick to my guns and politely ask them to make other arrangements? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My MIL wants to have sleepovers with my SO: Thoughts?

Hey ladies! I was wondering: Is it normal for my [crazy] future MIL to want to have a sleepover with my SO? My SO’s mom lives about an hour and forty-five minutes from us. She spends the night with my SO’s older sister pretty regularly as she is a SAHM and her husband works on the road. Every time we talk, she mentions coming over to our apartment during the summer and spending the weekend/having a sleepover. My SO and she doesn’t get along really well as she is a pushy, mean, and judgemental person. (For instance, we had been dating around a year, and I switched birth control to the Nexplanon implant and gained about 25 pounds. She asked multiple times if I was pregnant and said I was gaining weight too rapidly not to be. I ended up having to take a pregnancy test and show her I wasn’t.) She does and says things like this all the time. We go visit her for holidays and sometimes on off weekends to try and satisfy her, but my SO never enjoys it and really prefers space from his mother. He has expressed multiple times that he doesn’t want her …

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