custody

Is It Possible to Co-Parent Without Getting the Courts Involved?

Is It Possible to Co-Parent Without Getting the Courts Involved?

A mom writes in asking for advice about co-parenting. She wonders if any other moms have experience co-parenting their children shared with an ex without the need to go through a court process and settle on an official arrangement. She says she is not technically separated from her partner yet, but it’s coming. He has told her, after they split, she’ll be able to see their child every day and he is adamant they don’t involve the courts. But he also refuses to put a schedule in writing, which worries this mom.

Should I Send My Daughter, Who Is Sick with the Flu, to Her Dad's Just Because of Our Custody Agreement?

Should I Send My Daughter, Who Is Sick with the Flu, to Her Dad’s Just Because of Our Custody Agreement?

A mom writes in asking for advice about what to do with her daughter, who is sick with the flu. She is conflicted about whether she should send her sick daughter to her father’s. The father thinks that their daughter should still come stay with him, and, per court order in their custody agreement, it is technically his weekend to have her. Still, this mom feels like her daughter shouldn’t go until she’s feeling better. Who’s right?

My Son's Father Wants to Take Our Son 'for a Few Months' Upon His Release from Jail, But I'm Uncomfortable with That: Advice?

My Son’s Father Wants to Take Our Son ‘for a Few Months’ Upon His Release from Jail, But I’m Uncomfortable with That: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her child’s father. She says her son’s father is about to be released from jail and has requested that he take their son “for a few months” after he returns home. This mom is not comfortable sending her son to live with him for that long given his history, her son’s unfamiliarity with his father, and the fact that the father lives quite far away. How can she work to help father and son build a relationship she is actually comfortable with?

My 11-Year-Old Doesn't Want to Visit Her Dad Because of COVID-19 Fears, But He Is Heavily Guilt-Tripping Her: Advice?

My 11-Year-Old Doesn’t Want to Visit Her Dad Because of COVID-19 Fears, But He Is Heavily Guilt-Tripping Her: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her 11-year-old daughter. She shares custody of her daughter with her ex. However, her daughter has not wanted to visit and stay with her father (and his wife), mostly because of anxiety over COVID-19 and also because she has a new baby sister at her mom’s right now. This mom says her daughter’s father will call and guilt-trip her about not coming to the point where it upsets the daughter and makes her cry. What can this mom do?

I'm Scared My Child's Father May Try to Take Custody from Me: Advice?

I’m Scared My Child’s Father May Try to Take Custody from Me: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about custody. She says the father of her child, who is now five, has never been involved in the child’s life because she did not want him to be. She is now at a point where she is slowly letting her child’s father into their lives, but she is worried that he may try to take custody. Could he do that? Any. advice for her?

My Son's Father Wants to Claim Our Son on His Taxes Next Year: Can He Do That?

My Son’s Father Wants to Claim Our Son on His Taxes Next Year: Can He Do That?

A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation involving her son and her son’s father. She says her son’s father has requested that he be allowed to claim their child on his taxes next year. This mom has full physical custody of their son (and split legal custody). Moreover, her son’s father has not been super involved in his son’s life, particularly lately during the pandemic. Is her ex allowed to claim their son on his taxes? What can she do?

Money Issues: Would It Be Wrong to Tell My Child's Father to Keep Him for the Summer Due to Financial Problems?

Would It Be Wrong to Tell My Child’s Father to Keep Him for the Summer Due to Financial Problems?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her son and her son’s father, whom she is no longer with. She says that she has not been together with her son’s father for a long time; they did not work out as a couple. According to this mom, she eventually lost primary custody of her son, who elected to live with his father after being “showered” with gifts. She was supposed to have her son this summer, but her ex refuses to provide any financial support, even for groceries for their son, when she has them, which puts this mom in a financially impossible situation.

I Don't Think My Ex Is Fit to Take Care of the Kids Alone: Can I Have His Custodial Rights Stripped?

I Don’t Think My Ex Is Fit to Take Care of the Kids Alone: Can I Have His Custodial Rights Stripped?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex. She says she has been separated from her husband since August. He was not a good partner when they were together, and he hasn’t been a very present father, either. She wants to know what her options may be in terms of stripping her ex of his parental rights, or at least getting supervised visits for him because she fears for her kids’ lives sometimes when he has them.

My Ex's Fiancée Won't Allow Us to Co-Parent and Is Generally Very Nasty to Me: Advice?

My Ex’s Fiancée Won’t Allow Us to Co-Parent and Is Generally Very Nasty to Me: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation with her ex’s fiancée. She says she has been forced to deal directly with the fiancée, who is “in complete control” and who has apparently made co-parenting impossible. The fiancée allegedly records phone calls, refers to this mom’s kids as her own kids, says horrible things about this mom in front of the kids, among other things. How should she handle this?

Do I Have the Right to Keep My Son from His Father During Quarantine?

Do I Have the Right to Keep My Son from His Father During Quarantine?

A mom writes in asking for advice about a custody situation. She says that, as a result of quarantine and social distancing, she has quit her job as an essential worker to be home with her son. Her ex — the father of her son — and his girlfriend are still working their “essential” jobs, and she wants to know if she can keep her child away from them.

My Daughter's Biological Father Suddenly Wants to See Her After 5 Years of Being Absent: Advice?

My Daughter’s Biological Father Suddenly Wants to See Her After 5 Years of Being Absent: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about how to handle a situation with her daughter’s biological father. She says the father of her 5-year-old has had zero involvement in their lives since the baby was just 8-months-old. Now, the father claims he wants to be more involved and “bond” with his daughter. This mom is distressed.