“Mommas, I need advice. My partner and I are having a baby! However, we both have kids from previous relationships. How did you guys address your new babies with your other children’s parents?”
A mom writes in asking for advice about her boyfriend. She says she just moved in with her boyfriend, and they had their first blowout argument. She later came to learn that, after their fight, he called his ex-wife, with whom he shares children, to vent about the argument. This mom is highly uncomfortable with this revelation, and not because she’s jealous. In fact, she really likes his ex-wife. She just feels that some things in a relationship should not be aired publicly in such a fashion. Is she wrong? Was it wrong of her boyfriend to vent to his ex?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex and children’s father giving their kids melatonin without her permission. This mom says that she learned from her children that her ex, their father, and his girlfriend gave them dissolvable melatonin before bed while they were on a camping trip. This mom says that her kids don’t have and have never had sleeping issues, so she can’t think of why they were given melatonin. Ultimately, she says she is not ok with this and turns to the community for advice.
A mom writes in asking for advice about child support. She wants to know if her ex-husband is still obligated to pay child support even though she receives some Supplemental Security Income (SSI). She specifies that she only receives $150 a month in SSI, while his child support should be $300 a month. She adds that he is already $21,000 behind in child support payments. Should she fight for the child support, or is she out of luck?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter’s father, aka her ex. She says she and her ex ended on okay terms and initially shared custody of their daughter 50/50. But since the novel Coronavirus pandemic began earlier this year, she says, he has not seen much of his daughter. Nor has he contributed financially towards his daughter’s care. (She specifies that they do not have a child support arrangement currently, but she is now thinking of asking for one, given how little help he is providing.) In the end, she is looking for advice from other moms about how to handle this situation.
A mom writes in asking for advice about co-parenting. She wants to hear from other moms in co-parenting situations about how often they communicate with their exes. She is also curious whether most people keep it “business only” and discuss only matters pertaining to the children or if there is room for friendly conversation. She wants to hear specifically from moms who say they have a “friendly” relationship with their ex.
A mom writes in asking for advice about child support. She says her daughter’s father recently contacted her and asked her to drop the child support case pending against him due to personal issues on his end. His stimulus check was taken by the state, he currently does not have a valid driver’s license, and soon, she says, a warrant will be issued for his arrest. Given that she expects to receive nothing from him, should she drop the case? Or should she fight for what is rightfully her daughter’s?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex. She says that her ex has requested to take their son on a cross-country trip to meet a woman whom the ex has not met in person. This mom has tried to explain her concerns about this situation to her ex, but he does not seem to care. She is worried that if she flat-out tells him no, he will find ways to cause problems for her. Any advice for this mom?
A woman writes in asking for advice about her boyfriend. She says that her boyfriend recently told her they needed to take some time apart. After dating for two months, this woman says they argued frequently about petty things. Her boyfriend has not been very clear about how long he wants this break to be, but he says that he cares about her. She is worried that this was a rebound relationship and that maybe she should let it go for good, but first, she wanted to ask for advice.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex. She says her ex, the father of her 5-year-old daughter, was abusive and generally terrible to her. Since leaving him, she has tried to reconcile and create a good co-parenting relationship for the sake of their daughter, but it hasn’t been easy going. Recently, her ex bought their daughter an iPhone. This mom feels her daughter is too young for the device and does not like the way her ex seems to be manipulating their daughter and her emotions via the phone. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex, whom she says gave her old engagement ring to his new girlfriend. She says that she and her ex are on good terms, and she is also on good terms with his girlfriend (who recently became his fiancée). But she is bothered by the fact that he proposed using a ring she used to wear, and that she had hoped would eventually be passed to one of the two sons she shares with her ex. Does she have a right to be upset, or should she let it go?
A mom writes in asking for advice about a disagreement she is having with her ex-husband. She says their two daughters have started smoking marijuana. She has a “zero drug policy,” but her ex-husband laughs it off and says it is normal teenage behavior. This mom says she wants to drug test her daughters or give them the choice to go live with their father if they want to keep smoking. Is she overreacting?
A mom writes in asking for advice from single moms who have left their town or city and started over with their children, but otherwise alone. This mom says her daughter’s dad “wants us gone,” and she is seriously considering picking up, moving away, and starting over. She is not happy in her relationship and wants to get away from the toxicity. Is this a good call? Any advice for her? YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: Single Mom Takes Aim At Mom-Shamers Who Judge Moms For Bringing Their Kids Into the Grocery Store, Shuts Them Down With a Sign She Posted on Daughter’s Back A member of the community asks: “Have any other single moms left and started over? Have any of you single moms moved you and your child out of your city/town to start all over? My daughter’s dad wants us gone, and I think it’s time we pack up and leave as his request. I don’t have my license, and because of this COVID stuff, me getting my license right now is impossible. I planned on going back to school in the fall in the city. Should we just go? And live by ourselves? I’m not happy with my life …