A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex, the father of her two-year-old daughter. She says her daughter’s father has had very little involvement in her life due to being in and out of prison. Though this mom has no interest in any kind of meaningful relationship with her ex — and refuses to let him live with her again — she is conflicted about to what degree, if any, she should let him into their daughter’s life, given his history. Other moms share their advice for her below.
A mom writes in asking for advice about custody. She says the father of her child, who is now five, has never been involved in the child’s life because she did not want him to be. She is now at a point where she is slowly letting her child’s father into their lives, but she is worried that he may try to take custody. Could he do that? Any. advice for her?
A mom writes in asking for advice about whether she should end her relationship with the father of her child. She says she and her father’s child have been separated for five months, and during this time, he has been sleeping around. Moreover, he hasn’t seen their child since Christmas, and he may have abusive tendencies. Is it time for this mom to move on?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 7-year-old daughter. She says that her daughter has ever only really known one father, who is not her biological father. Her biological father has never been in her life. Her fiancé, however, has been in her daughter’s life as “Papa” for six years. Her daughter, though, is starting to ask questions about why she doesn’t look like her mom and dad. Now, this mom is wondering: Is now a good time to tell her daughter about her biological dad?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her father and whether she should keep him in her and her kids’ lives. She says she has never had a good relationship with him; he cheated on her mom multiple times and has mental illness struggles. She has tried to set ground rules for him that he does not follow. After a recent incident, she is wondering if she should simply cut him out of her life for good.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter’s relationship with her biological father. This. mom says she recently learned that the girl’s father — whom this mom has not been with for a long time — bathes naked in the tub with his daughter. This mom is concerned about this behavior, but should she be?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship. She says that her partner and his son recently moved in her — she also has a child from a previous relationship and is currently pregnant — and gets mad when she asks him to be more proactive in finding work. He thinks it’s unfair that he has to work while she doesn’t, even though she’s managing the household.