“I need some advice; I am a new mum to a 3-month-old adorable baby. I had a rocky marriage during my pregnancy… my husband was not helping out at home, left all the chores to me, was inconsiderate of my pregnancy pains, even during the Covid restrictions, he would find ways to go and see his friends and just drink till like 3 am in the morning.”
“I am a mom to two babies, 8 and 1 yo. My partner and I have had a rough year, but we are doing okay. He is facing legal trouble; he is an addict but now sober and went to rehab, so he is just trying to get back to work. He doesn’t want any more children, and I do. We spoke about doing it ‘right’ in the future and planning our last one so we can be excited and enjoy every minute.”
A mom writes in asking for advice about her in-laws. She says her husband’s family is constantly insulting and criticizing her. They told her she was lazy for sitting on the couch just two weeks after giving birth. They called her names. Her mother-in-law even told her to make a will because if she didn’t, the mother-in-law would fight this mom’s parents for custody of the kids in the event of her death. She adds that her husband refuses to help and has even told her that if she says anything negative about his family, he doesn’t see their marriage working. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she recently learned her husband is leaving her for a younger woman. He has told her she needs to move out of the house they built together, and even more tragic, they share three children together. This mom doesn’t know what to do or who to turn to. Should she try and stay and fight? Should she just pick up, leave, and move on? Below, the community shares their advice for this mom in need.
A mom writes in asking for advice about telling her husband that she is pregnant. This mom-to-be is wondering if the community has any thoughts on ways (presumably fun and interesting ways that go beyond simply stating the fact) for her to tell her husband that they are expecting a baby. Below, the community weighs in with some thoughts and suggestions.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé, who is on a different page than her when it comes to maintaining their home. She says that though she is not materialistic, her family “holds a strong reputation” where she lives, and she likes to keep her home in order because of that. Her fiancé, however, “couldn’t care less.” He leaves visible messes, such as oil spills in the driveway. He has left their Christmas lights up for at least 7 months. How can this mom work with her partner to get him to help take better care of where they live?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says that her husband recently informed her he earned a promotion, which usually involves a ceremony. She asked him if she and their son should attend, and he told her that, due to COVID-19, they weren’t allowing family to attend these ceremonies. This mom learned from friends and social media that that doesn’t seem entirely true. So she confronted him, which caused an argument. Her thoughts are running wild about the reasons why he wouldn’t want her to be there, but is she overreacting?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having another kid with her husband. She says she has about 9 months until she has her birth control removed, and at that time, she will need to make certain family planning decisions. She thinks she wants another child, although she is a little unsure about the timing. Her husband, however, is “adamant” that they not have another. When they discuss this, it usually erupts into an argument. How can she come to an agreement with her husband?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she has been with her husband for six years and married for four. He has a history of not always planning something special for important dates and anniversaries. But recently, he came home on their fourth wedding anniversary and didn’t even acknowledge that it was their anniversary. This mom had expected to go out; instead, he said he was tired and fell asleep. This mom is heartbroken and angry. What should she do?