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My In-Laws Are Verbally and Emotionally Abusive Towards Me, and My Husband Isn't Helping: Advice?

My In-Laws Are Verbally and Emotionally Abusive Towards Me, and My Husband Isn’t Helping: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her in-laws. She says her husband’s family is constantly insulting and criticizing her. They told her she was lazy for sitting on the couch just two weeks after giving birth. They called her names. Her mother-in-law even told her to make a will because if she didn’t, the mother-in-law would fight this mom’s parents for custody of the kids in the event of her death. She adds that her husband refuses to help and has even told her that if she says anything negative about his family, he doesn’t see their marriage working. What should she do?

My Husband Is Leaving Me for Someone Younger: Where Do I Go From Here?

My Husband Is Leaving Me for Someone Younger: Where Do I Go From Here?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she recently learned her husband is leaving her for a younger woman. He has told her she needs to move out of the house they built together, and even more tragic, they share three children together. This mom doesn’t know what to do or who to turn to. Should she try and stay and fight? Should she just pick up, leave, and move on? Below, the community shares their advice for this mom in need.

I'm Looking for Fun Ways to Tell My Husband I'm Pregnant: Advice?

I’m Looking for Fun Ways to Tell My Husband I’m Pregnant: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about telling her husband that she is pregnant. This mom-to-be is wondering if the community has any thoughts on ways (presumably fun and interesting ways that go beyond simply stating the fact) for her to tell her husband that they are expecting a baby. Below, the community weighs in with some thoughts and suggestions.

How Can I Get My Fiancé to Have More Pride in Our Home and Its Upkeep?

How Can I Get My Fiancé to Have More Pride in Our Home and Its Upkeep?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé, who is on a different page than her when it comes to maintaining their home. She says that though she is not materialistic, her family “holds a strong reputation” where she lives, and she likes to keep her home in order because of that. Her fiancé, however, “couldn’t care less.” He leaves visible messes, such as oil spills in the driveway. He has left their Christmas lights up for at least 7 months. How can this mom work with her partner to get him to help take better care of where they live?

My Husband Does Not Want Me or Our Son to Attend His Military Promotion Ceremony: Is This Fishy or Am I Overreacting?

My Husband Does Not Want Me or Our Son to Attend His Military Promotion Ceremony: Is This Fishy or Am I Overreacting?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says that her husband recently informed her he earned a promotion, which usually involves a ceremony. She asked him if she and their son should attend, and he told her that, due to COVID-19, they weren’t allowing family to attend these ceremonies. This mom learned from friends and social media that that doesn’t seem entirely true. So she confronted him, which caused an argument. Her thoughts are running wild about the reasons why he wouldn’t want her to be there, but is she overreacting?

My Husband Absolutely Does Not Want Another Kid, But I Think I Do: Advice?

My Husband Absolutely Does Not Want Another Kid, But I Think I Do: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about having another kid with her husband. She says she has about 9 months until she has her birth control removed, and at that time, she will need to make certain family planning decisions. She thinks she wants another child, although she is a little unsure about the timing. Her husband, however, is “adamant” that they not have another. When they discuss this, it usually erupts into an argument. How can she come to an agreement with her husband?

My Husband Didn't Acknowledge Our Anniversary, and It Isn't the First Time He's Dropped the Ball: Advice?

My Husband Didn’t Acknowledge Our Anniversary, and It Isn’t the First Time He’s Dropped the Ball: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she has been with her husband for six years and married for four. He has a history of not always planning something special for important dates and anniversaries. But recently, he came home on their fourth wedding anniversary and didn’t even acknowledge that it was their anniversary. This mom had expected to go out; instead, he said he was tired and fell asleep. This mom is heartbroken and angry. What should she do?

My Husband and I Cannot Compromise on a Baby Name: Please Help!

My Husband and I Cannot Compromise on a Baby Name: Please Help!

A mom writes in asking for advice about a baby name. She says her husband is dead-set on naming their son in the family tradition, but this mom is not a fan. She agreed to do it a long time ago, but now she is worried she may actually have to go with it if they end up having a boy. She thinks this name is confusing and would rather choose a new name that they’re both okay with, but he seems pretty firmly set on the name if their baby is, in fact, a boy. Should she push for more of a compromise or let him have his way?

My Husband Invited People Over Without Asking Me, Ruining Plans with My Daughter: Am I Wrong to Be Upset?

My Husband Invited People Over Without Asking Me, Ruining Plans with My Daughter: Am I Wrong to Be Upset?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband, who, she says, invited people over to the house without asking her first. This was upsetting for this mom because she’d been looking forward to spending some one-on-one time with their daughter, which could not happen due to the surprise guests. Is this mom wrong for feeling upset?

My Husband and I Split Household Costs 50/50, But He Definitely Doesn't Do 50 Percent of the Housework: Advice?

My Husband and I Split Household Costs 50/50, But He Definitely Doesn’t Do 50 Percent of the Housework: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She and her husband both work full time in addition to having a son. She says her husband believes they should split the cost of everything 50/50, and they do. But it gets more complicated because this mom says that his “50/50” attitude does not apply when it comes time to taking care of their house and child. How can she work with him on a more equitable division of labor? YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: My Husband Does Not Help Our Family At All: Is It Time for Me To Leave Him? A member of the community asks: “Should a household always be 50/50? So my husband and I both work 40 hours a week. We both have decently straining jobs. His more physical, mine more mental. He believes we should split the bills 50/50, and we do — half on electric, gas, lease, car, down to the grocery bill. The problem is, he barely does any housework. I’m usually the one staying up on my days off to clean everything and running around after work to keep it that way. When our son has a difficult time sleeping, I’m usually the …

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My Husband Asked for Scandalous Photos from a Girl on Snapchat: Advice?

My Husband Asked for Scandalous Photos from a Girl on Snapchat: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she accidentally learned that her husband requested scandalous photos from a girl he apparently friends with on the popular social media app, Snapchat. She found a saved conversation in which her husband was replying to a photo of the girl, who was in a barely-there outfit, in which he asked why she had not sent the photos to him directly. How should she confront her husband?

My Husband Spends Three Hours a Day in the Bathroom, Supposedly Pooping... But That's Not Normal Right?

My Husband Spends Three Hours a Day in the Bathroom, Supposedly Pooping… But That’s Not Normal Right?

A woman writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says that he has always taken at least an hour in the bathroom “to poop,” but lately, that time has been getting even longer. It recently reached three hours. She says he takes his computer into the bathroom. He is defensive when she asks him to explain what, exactly, is taking so long. Is she overreacting? What should she do?

My Mother-in-Law Trash Talks Me and My Kids: How Do I Tell My Husband I'm Done?

My Mother-in-Law Trash Talks Me and My Kids: How Do I Tell My Husband I’m Done?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says she’s always had a problem with her mother in law, who has made disparaging remarks about her and both of her grandchildren. After moving in with the mother-in-law, at her own request, this mom was once again subjected to hurtful comments. She left with her kids and went to her own parents’, but how can she tell her husband she won’t return to his mom’s

My Husband Does Not Help Our Family At All: Is It Time for Me To Leave Him?

My Husband Does Not Help Our Family At All: Is It Time for Me To Leave Him?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says her husband, to whom she has been married for 7 years, does nothing to help her or their kids. He doesn’t work. He doesn’t help around the house. He keeps making efforts that only last for days before going back to doing nothing. Things are only becoming more strained with time. They have been to counseling, but the problems remain. Should this mom give up on the marriage or keep trying?

I No Longer Have Romantic Feelings for My Husband Even Though He's a Great Partner and Dad: Advice?

I No Longer Have Romantic Feelings for My Husband Even Though He’s a Great Partner and Dad: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship with her husband. She says that she no longer feels a romantic connection with her husband; instead, she only sees him as a friend. He’s a good man and a good father, she says, but the romantic spark is gone. They are currently living separately so that she can spend some time exploring her feelings, and they are already in therapy together. She feels torn between her head and her heart. Any advice for her?

My Partner Was Recently Diagnosed with ADD/ADHD: Any Advice?

My Partner Was Recently Diagnosed with ADD/ADHD: Any Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner, who is also the father of her child. She says he was recently diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD). It seems this news came as a surprise to this mom. She is asking for thoughts and advice from the community: Does anyone have advice to share about living with a partner with ADD/ADHD? Any words of wisdom?

My Husband Isn't Thinking of His Family's Health During This Pandemic: Advice?

My Husband Isn’t Thinking of His Family’s Health During This Pandemic: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband, whom she says is not taking the ongoing pandemic seriously. The husband works outside the house, and when he comes home, he makes no effort to wash his hands, remove dirty clothing, or otherwise be sanitary. Their daughter has a history of pneumonia, so this mom wants to know what she should do.

My Partner Gets Mad That He Has to Work — Even Though He Doesn't — While I Don't: Advice?

My Partner Gets Mad That He Has to Work — Even Though He Doesn’t — While I Don’t: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship. She says that her partner and his son recently moved in her — she also has a child from a previous relationship and is currently pregnant — and gets mad when she asks him to be more proactive in finding work. He thinks it’s unfair that he has to work while she doesn’t, even though she’s managing the household.