One mom is facing a tough situation with her in-laws: They own guns and she does not want them to babysit her children unless the guns are under lock-and-key. She asked Reddit readers their thoughts on the issue.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says that her MIL is all up in her business in a way that feels very inappropriate. This MIL makes critical, insulting comments about her daughter-in-law’s house and mothering skills. She has told this mom that it is her responsibility to sexually satisfy her husband (aka the MIL’s son). She has pestered this mom about having more children. This mom doesn’t want to end the relationship with her mother-in-law, but she does need a change. How can she talk to her in a polite, productive way?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her in-laws. She says her husband’s family is constantly insulting and criticizing her. They told her she was lazy for sitting on the couch just two weeks after giving birth. They called her names. Her mother-in-law even told her to make a will because if she didn’t, the mother-in-law would fight this mom’s parents for custody of the kids in the event of her death. She adds that her husband refuses to help and has even told her that if she says anything negative about his family, he doesn’t see their marriage working. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about baby names. She says that she has a baby name picked out for her baby boy, but her in-laws dislike the name. In fact, her in-laws told her that if she ends up going with her choice of baby name, they will make fun of it. They then offered up their own list of names for her to consider, all of which she doesn’t care for. Even though her husband has “set them straight,” she feels upset by the situation and is looking for support and advice.
A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation involving her husband’s family. She says her husband’s family, her in-laws, invited him to join them for a fishing trip. No problem, right? Well, the thing is that his family is paying the way for everyone involved in the trip… But they told this mom that if she wants to go, she has to shell out $1,500. She is wondering if she is overreacting, but ultimately she just feels hurt and excluded. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL “swears” this mom is deliberately keeping her 7-month-old away from her. And in a way, that is true, because this MIL is an essential worker, and this mom wants to keep her family safe during the ongoing novel coronavirus pandemic. Still, this mom is not deliberately trying to keep her child away, and she is not doing so to be rude or petty. How can she communicate this to her mother-in-law?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says that her mother-in-law favors her youngest child over her oldest. This mom suspects it is likely due to the fact that her youngest is her mother-in-law’s first “blood” (or biological) grandchild, as her older child is from a previous relationship. Still, it bothers this mom that her MIL so clearly favors one over the other. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about watching her sister-in-law’s kids. This mom-of-three (who is currently pregnant with her fourth) says that recently her sister-in-law asked her to watch her two daughters. This mom agreed and continued to help with her SIL’s kids over the last couple of months. Between the cost of feeding two additional children and scheduling issues, this mom is feeling stressed and is thinking she may not be able to watch her SIL’s kids anymore, but she doesn’t want to create drama. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about giving an expensive gift to a relative. This mom says she wants to gift Gucci shoes to her husband’s sister’s son, who is just one-year-old. Her husband, however, thinks it is an inappropriate gift because his sister is going through an expensive divorce and could not afford to give those shoes herself. Should she give the gift of Gucci or not?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL expects to be waited upon whenever she is in her home. She sits back, watches her daughter-in-law do everything — cooking, cleaning up, etc. — and in general makes no effort to help. This mom is fed up and feeling like she’d rather not have her MIL over at all if this is how she’s going to act. Read advice for her below.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says she’s always had a problem with her mother in law, who has made disparaging remarks about her and both of her grandchildren. After moving in with the mother-in-law, at her own request, this mom was once again subjected to hurtful comments. She left with her kids and went to her own parents’, but how can she tell her husband she won’t return to his mom’s
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. This mom has had a truly terrible relationship with her mother-in-law, to the point where they pretty much cut off all contact. Now, though, her mother-in-law has cancer, and this mom is wondering if it would be wrong to continue excluding her MIL from her life. Both she and her husband (her MIL’s son) are conflicted and don’t know what to do, given the toxic nature of the relationship.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband’s family. She says the family of her husband, who is stepfather to her two children, screamed and swore at her kids while at another kid’s birthday party. She says they told her kids to “shut the f** up,” called them annoying, and said more, which she declined to get into. How should she handle this situation?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law (MIL). She says that she, her son, and her boyfriend live with her boyfriend’s mom (her MIL). The MIL constantly oversteps her boundaries and butts in on parenting matters that ultimately aren’t her business. She leaves passive-aggressive notes for the mom to find. She overrules this mom’s desires for her child (including for things like vaccines and food.) She also says that her boyfriend never stands up for her against his mom. Unfortunately, this mom is not in a place to move out with her family just yet, so how can she cope with her MIL in the meantime?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her sister-in-law. She says her SIL “copies everything I do” from home decor to kids’ clothing to social media posts. She also adds that her SIL has a daughter who “does not know how to play well with others” and hits when expressing emotion. She wants to stop her SIL’s daughter from playing with her own daughter. YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: In-Laws Do Paternity Test On Newborn Behind Mother’s Back To ‘Be Sure’ Who Baby’s Father Is A member of the community asks: “My sister-in-law copies everything I do: Advice? Am I overreacting? My sister-in-law copies everything I do. It really bothers me. She copies my house, my decor, my kid’s clothes, our social media, everything! Should I be bothered? Also, she had a daughter when she came into the family… her daughter doesn’t know how to play well with others. She expresses her emotions by hitting others. She hits my daughter & I am pretty much fed up with it and told my husband her daughter is not allowed to play with our daughter anymore. Am I going to far by not allowing them to play together anymore?” – Mamas Uncut Community Member Community …
A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation with her in-laws. She says her in-laws “feel like it was inappropriate” that this mom posted photos of her own daughter at her cake smash because her daughter was “only in her tutu.” The in-laws accused this mom of invading her own daughter’s privacy. This mom is offended but doesn’t know how to handle the situation.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter-in-law and that side of the family. She says she is frustrated that her in-laws call her “Miss Marie” while everyone else is referred to either by their name/title of choice or is called “Aunt Rose” or something more family-specific. This mom feels excluded from the family, like a neighbor and not a family member, because of the way people refer to her.
A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation with her mother-in-law. She says that she, her partner, and their 6-month-old baby live with her partner’s mom (her MIL). According to this mom, the MIL refuses to call the baby by her actual name and will instead call her “everything but her name.” This MIL also offers a lot of unwanted opinions, advice, and judgment.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL very obviously plays favorites with the grandkids, favoring the eldest, who is this mom’s husband’s child from a previous relationship. The MIL is still, apparently, friends with her son’s ex, which makes this mom (and the children she shares with her husband) feel not-well-liked.