A mom writes in asking for advice about buying Christmas gifts for her daughter. This mom always likes to shop ahead of the holiday season to avoid higher prices and related drama, and this year has been no different. Except that she claims a lot of people in her life are making her feel bad for doing so because of how the COVID-19 pandemic has affected the economy. They say she shouldn’t spend so much money on gifts for her child. This mom doesn’t see the problem, as she isn’t spending beyond her means, but she is feeling guilty after facing the backlash.
A mom writes in asking for advice about anxiety stemming from a potentially major life change. She says she was recently accepted into the program of her dreams. The problem? It will mean she spends a lot less time with her twins. She has been a stay-at-home-mom since she had her twins two years ago, and she is struggling with the thought of being away from her babies for most of the week. She asks for advice from other moms about how to cope with this big change… or even whether she should consider delaying her start in the program.
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says she feels guilty about having a second baby so soon after her first. Her first child, a daughter, is her “best friend” and is only 20 months old. She is due to have her second in a month. She is worried the new baby will negatively affect her relationship with her daughter. Her second child was unplanned, she says, and she only wishes she had more time one-on-one with her daughter. Is it normal to feel this guilty?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 4-year-old daughter. She says her daughter will always ask her mom if she loves her after she gets in trouble. Whether she gets put in a time out or ignored or yelled at for bad behavior, her daughter always asks her mom if she loves her. This worries this mom, who thinks maybe something in her actions makes her daughter feel unloved in those moments.
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says that her 5-month-old daughter has basically been by her side all day, every day since birth. This mom feels guilty leaving her baby with others, including family members. She is worried that this attachment is bad for her baby, who has become fussy the few times she’s let family care for her. And then she feels more guilt at the idea of leaving a fussy baby with a loved one. She’s looking for advice about how to get used to letting her daughter be in others’ care and managing her emotions and mental health in the process.
A mom writes in looking for advice because she feels guilty for leaving her sick kids all day, while she works and goes on a date. A Community Member asks: “So today is my husband and mine’s first anniversary. Both of our kids (2 and 3) are sick right now, so they’re staying with grandparents instead of going to preschool for the day because we both work. We had planned to go to dinner tonight and to a spa (we would be gone for about 3 hours), picking them up at 8:45 pm. I am feeling extremely guilty about leaving them for the entire day. I am going to go bring them their medicines before dinner then leave again. I feel terrible. I want to cancel our date, but my husband gets irritated with my constant anxiety and guilt. I work all day tomorrow from 7 am-7:30 pm because I am a nurse. So I won’t see them all day tomorrow either. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do or any encouragement?“ -Mamas Uncut Community Member Community Advice For The Mom Who Feels Guilty For Leaving Her Sick Kids To Go On A Date Night To see …