A mom writes in asking for advice about age gaps. She wants to hear from other moms who have kids who are several years or more apart. She just found out she is pregnant and is concerned that her daughter, who will be 10 when the new baby arrives, will view the baby as “a major rift… instead of a blessing.” So she asks other moms: How is it having kids who are 10 years apart? What advice do they have that might ease her anxiety?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having more kids. This mom says she and her husband currently have three children altogether. (They have one child together and then each has a child from a previous relationship.) Her husband has a vasectomy scheduled for October, which initially this mom was fine with, but after thinking more about it, she is worried she may end up wanting more children down the line. What factors should she seriously consider before deciding for sure she is done having kids?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having a third child. This mom says she has two children ages 7 and 5, and she is currently pregnant with her third. Despite this not being her first rodeo, this mom is experiencing severe anxiety thinking about balancing jobs, finances, and life with three kids. Have any other moms experienced a similar uptick in anxiety when having multiple kids?
A mom writes in asking for advice about buying a new car. This mom is soon to become a mom-of-three, all under 4-years-old. She is in the market now for a new vehicle and is torn between an SUV (sport utility vehicle) and a minivan. While she doesn’t love the look and reputation of a minivan, she understands many families get one for practical reasons that may be appealing to her. She asks the community to share their thoughts on the difference between an SUV and a minivan to help her make her decision.
A mom writes in asking for advice about age gaps. She says her son is turning one, and she is aiming to have another one within the next year. It would give a 21 or 22 month age gap between kids. She is wondering if this is a good amount of time between kids. She wants her children to be close, but she doesn’t want to miss out on her first baby’s big moments. Is it true that when babies are closer in age it’s a lot more work for the parents despite the fact the kids are likely to be closer to one another?
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says she feels guilty about having a second baby so soon after her first. Her first child, a daughter, is her “best friend” and is only 20 months old. She is due to have her second in a month. She is worried the new baby will negatively affect her relationship with her daughter. Her second child was unplanned, she says, and she only wishes she had more time one-on-one with her daughter. Is it normal to feel this guilty?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having another kid with her husband. She says she has about 9 months until she has her birth control removed, and at that time, she will need to make certain family planning decisions. She thinks she wants another child, although she is a little unsure about the timing. Her husband, however, is “adamant” that they not have another. When they discuss this, it usually erupts into an argument. How can she come to an agreement with her husband?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having multiple children. She wants to hear from other moms about what they feel is the perfect age gap to have between children. She has a four-month-old daughter and wants more children. On her current trajectory, though, she is not planning to have another until her daughter is almost four. Is that too long?
A mom writes in asking for advice about whether or not she should have a second child. This mom-of-one says “life is crazy enough with one” child, and she worries that adding another into the mix will only make life harder. However, she worries that one day she will look back and wish she had a second, only it will be too late to do it by then. She asks moms with multiples what the pros and cons are of having more than one child.
A mom writes in asking for advice about having a second baby shower. She says she is expecting her second child, a boy, this summer, and is wondering what she should do about throwing a shower. She is not especially interested in gifts but might want to throw a gathering to celebrate the baby’s arrival anyway. But it seems many have told her that having a second baby shower is unnecessary, causing her to feel bad.
A mom writes in asking for advice about the age gap between her kids. She is a mother-of-four; three of her four kids are teenagers or pre-teens. Her newest child is an 11-month-old infant. That makes the age gap between her youngest child and second-oldest kid more than 10 years. This mom has been struggling, and she is unsure why. She has raised three kids, but this fourth one seems harder. Is it due to the age gap? Any advice for her?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her four kids. She says that as an only child, she always wanted a big family. So she had four kids, who range in age from 4 to 18. The problem? They are constantly fighting. They name call, argue, and are sometimes straight-up cruel. It breaks this mom’s heart, and she wants to know if it’s normal behavior and/or if her kids will eventually grow out of this contentious stage.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says her MIL very obviously plays favorites with the grandkids, favoring the eldest, who is this mom’s husband’s child from a previous relationship. The MIL is still, apparently, friends with her son’s ex, which makes this mom (and the children she shares with her husband) feel not-well-liked.