“My 3-year-old has been talking to herself a lot when she gets upset. For example, when it is time for bed, she will lay down and tell herself, ‘it’s okay, you’re a big girl. It’s okay,” and she will keep repeating it.”
A mom writes in asking for advice about breastfeeding. She says she has been breastfeeding for the last year and has no plans on stopping anytime soon. But she wants to know when she should stop. She asks other breastfeeding moms when they stopped nursing their children and what were the factors they considered when they decided to stop. Ultimately, she wants to know: Is there an age her child will reach that she should stop breastfeeding?
A mom writes in asking for advice about grief and grieving. She says her two-year-old son is grieving the loss of his beloved great-grandma. Since her death at the beginning of the year, he has stopped talking. He takes a picture of himself with his great-grandma with him everywhere and won’t let anyone touch it. He has also been sleeping with the blanket that belonged to his great-grandma when she was in the nursing home. The doctor told this mom her son may just need a grieving period, but how do you help a toddler process such powerful emotions?
A mom writes in asking for advice about nursing. She says her now-5-year-old daughter “all of the sudden” wants to start nursing again. She adds that she nursed her daughter for 3.5 years. But for the last year and a half, she has not nursed. She is confused as to why this might be coming up again now, especially given that she says they haven’t been around anyone who is currently nursing. Is this normal?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her toddler. She says that her toddler refuses to hold her hand when they go places in public. She adds that if she tries to hold his hand, he sits on the ground and won’t move. But if she isn’t holding his hand, her son will run around like crazy and will often do things like run into the street. It has gotten to the point where this mom feels she can’t safely take her toddler anywhere. Is there anything she can do to change this behavior?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 2-year-old toddler. She wants to know if any other moms in the Mamas Uncut community have tips on how to stop a 2-year-old from crawling out of his or her crib. Below, the community weighs in with advice and recommendations, most of which boil down to the fact it may be time for a toddler bed!
A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-and-a-half-year-old toddler daughter. She says her daughter has recently started cursing and using swear words (the f-word and the s-word, specifically) when she drops something or is told “no.” This mom admits that her daughter almost definitely learned the language from her, as she uses those words sometimes herself. But how does she put an end to this behavior and retrain her daughter not to use those words?
A mom writes in asking for advice about discussing race with her children. This mom, who is white and who says most of her family and friend group are white and/or Hispanic, says her 3-year-old recently asked a question about race. She feels like she gave a bad answer at the time, and given the ongoing Black Lives Matter protests and discussions about systematic racism, this mom wants to know how she can effectively communicate sensitive issues to her young children.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her stepson, a 15-year-old boy, who she says is mean to the daughter she shares with her fiancé. Her fiancé’s son, she says, is constantly hurting and scaring their daughter. He pushes her down. Or he does something else troublesome and tries to blame the toddler. He has repeatedly scared her at night after she’s been put to bed. Her fiancé has tried to speak with his son, and though it has helped, some of the behavior still continues.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her almost-three-year-old toddler daughter. She says she is not much a meat-eater. She is also, as of recently, not much of a veggie eater. She’ll take a single bite of dinner and refuse to eat more. In short, she’s a very stubborn picky eater. It’s gotten so bad overall that her daughter is waking up in the middle of the night hungry because she has refused to eat. Advice?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her three-year-old daughter. She says that ever since she welcomed a baby (now 11-months-old), her older daughter, now 3, has started going out of her way to make everyone around her mad or sad. She has tried to hurt her sister. She has begun wetting herself and purposefully peeing on the carpet. This mom has tried every approach she knows, but her daughter’s behavior remains unchanged.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old toddler. She says her son is “super hyperactive.” He is usually fine when it just the two of them, but if anyone else is around, “all respect goes out the window.” He runs wild, throws things, yells, and then throws a fit when his mom tries to calm him or send him to his room. This mom wants to know if there is anything can do to help change this behavior, to calm him when he is in such a state.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 11-month-old baby who, she says, refuses to eat any food other than baby food. She has tried a ton of different baby-safe foods, but nothing has taken. Her son will only eat baby food with cereal mixed in. If she gives him something else, like peas or eggs or banana, “he will gag until he makes himself throw up.” Do you have any advice for this mom?
A mom writes in asking for advice about potty training. She says she is currently potty training her 3-year-old toddler, and though he’s doing well overall (with Number One, anyway), she says he is “terrified of going Number Two.” He explicitly says he is scared. She tries to coax him with prizes. But it isn’t taking. She says she is now on day three of him “holding it in,” and so she’d like some advice about ways she can encourage him.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old son, whom she says is overly affectionate with strangers. She says her son will hug and kiss strangers — friends of the mom’s who come over to visit, for example — and this behavior makes his mom uncomfortable. The strangers, she says, will usually laugh, which she feels encourages him to do it more. She wants to explain to him that it is not okay to kiss strangers. Any advice?
A mom writes in asking about her two-year-old toddler, who she says has “breath holding spells” that have started to worry her. She says her son will hold his breath until his lips turn blue. It often happens after he gets hurt or is upset. It has not yet gotten to the point where her son has passed out, but her doctor warned that it could eventually happen. Is this normal behavior? Should she be worried? Do you have any advice for this concerned mama?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-year-old toddler. She says her son has taken to hitting her (or someone else) when he’s angry, mad, and/or annoyed. This mom has tried to stop the behavior by telling him “no” when he hits, but that tends to make the hitting worse, and she says he even will hit himself. Any advice for this mom on how to get a toddler to stop hitting his parents or relatives?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-year-old. She says her toddler, who once ate “literally anything,” has refused to eat solid foods for the last six months. All he wants is milk, juice, and sometimes oranges. All day, every day. This mom has tried some old standby tricks, but now she’s turning to the community for further advice.
A mom writes in asking for advice about potty training boys. She says her 1-year-old son has shown a lot of interest in the potty, but she can’t get him to actually use it. He hates having a dirty diaper, often sits on the potty “like mommy,” but ultimately he does not complete the act. Though this mom is not in a rush to potty train her son, given his interest, she is wondering what it might look like to start the process. Any advice?
A mom writes in asking for advice about managing her two-year-old daughter’s nightmares. She says that, since birth, her daughter has woken up between 1 and 4 a.m., often screaming. Her daughter’s doctor approved the use of melatonin and says it is likely due to nightmares, but this mom is wondering if there is anything she can do.