A mom writes in asking for advice after ending a 9-year relationship. She and her ex have a 5-year-old son together, and now that she’s getting back out there, the mom is wondering when she should tell potential suitors that she has a child? Do you have any advice for this wondering mom?
A member of the community asks:
“So I’ve recently gotten out of a 9-year relationship with someone I share a 5-year-old son with. I’m not out there looking for anything serious relationship-wise but I’m just letting things flow and whatever happens, happens. So my question is, how far into talking to someone do you reveal that you have a child?”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Getting Back Into the Dating Scene
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
There is no point in waiting to mention that she has a son, according to community members. One commenter wrote, “Instantly. You wait forever, or at least until you’re sure they’re the one before you let them meet your child, but tell them you’re a parent right away.”
Another person said, “I made it part of my bio on a dating app in big letters, ‘I AM A MOM.’ My son comes first. If you can’t handle that, move along.”
And one mom added, “I don’t know about you but my daughter is my LIFE. There’s no me without her. I wouldn’t be able to go five minutes talking to someone without mentioning her. So I’d say immediately.”
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