A mom writes in asking for advice about Santa Claus. She says her 9-year-old son, who will be 10 in December, still believes in Santa. This mom knows that some of his friends already know “the truth” about Santa, and she is wondering if she has a duty to get him up to speed. She doesn’t want her son to get made of by his friends or others if they find out he still believes at this age. Additionally, she worries that when he does find out about Santa, he would be upset with her for hiding the truth from him. Should she let the magic stay alive or think about telling him?
A member of the community asks:
“When did your child stop believing in Santa?”
“What age did your kids quit believing in Santa Claus? My 9-year-old son still believes. (He’ll be 10 in December.) I thought maybe he was getting suspicious of it, but I could tell by a comment he made today that he totally still believes. I know of at least one of his close friends that no longer believes. I’m not sure about his others. I don’t want to ruin it for him, but I don’t want him to get made fun of. Not only for the obvious reasons, but if that was to happen, I’m afraid he would be mad at me for not telling him the truth.”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Wondering if It’s OK That Her 9-Year-Old Still Believes in Santa
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“With my kids I let them stay believing. I told my son that many don’t believe in Santa as many don’t believe in magic, but magic is real. One year I lost my job, the kids knew I did, yet a group of people bought them tons of gifts to help us out (which included boots and clothes) It was amazing…
… They KNEW I couldn’t afford it and all present were written from Santa so I legit have no idea who sent them. So they got presents from Santa. They know we struggle but they don’t go without if I can help it at all. I keep magic alive as long as I can. Because sometimes in life, when you are struggling all kids have to hold on and believe in IS that magic.”
“We were taught, and I taught my now-grown children, that as long as you believe, Santa is real then you will receive. That he’s more like the spirit of giving and not necessarily a person and that you can be Santa for someone else by anonymously giving to others. It doesn’t have to be a monetary gift either. It can be a random act of kindness or helping someone in need also.”
My kids were taught Santa is a person who gives. He helps those in need, and shares love. He isn’t just one person, he’s anyone who cares about others. My kids know Santa will always be real if you are always there doing something nice for someone. It’s not about the gifts, but the spirit of giving.”
“My son has some friends that don’t believe, but I told him Santa only comes to people who believe and I make it pretty magical for them. My 12-year-old still hasn’t admitted he doesn’t believe but I can sense he knows. I am 37 years old and will always believe in the myth and the love that the story tells.”
“We have a rule around here: when you quit believing in Santa, all you get is underwear… So far none of my 23 grandkids get underwear.”
“I thought my kids believed all the way into junior high, they would say things that led my think so anyway. But one day one we were talking about Santa and Christmas and one of them said ‘mom we know you’re Santa, we’ve known for years.’ I was shocked and asked why they hadn’t said anything, to which she replied ‘because we know that it was important to you’ .He might already know but likes how special it is for you.”
“When my kids get older my thoughts are to show that Santa is a spirit. A spirit of giving and that they can be that for others. I am honestly excited for the transition as much as I am to continue my role as Santa.”
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