Beyoncé Opens up About How Miscarriage and Becoming a Mother Changed How She Measured Success, Calling Motherhood Her Greatest Role

Gracing the cover of Elle’s January 2020 issue is none other than singer, songwriter Beyoncé Knowles-Carter. And the otherwise private A-list celebrity did not disappoint when it comes to opening up about all the things going on in her life right now.

All of the questions answered during her interview with Elle were sent in by some of her biggest fans. The questions ranged from the last time she went to a supermarket to what stresses her out the most.

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And as the mom of three revealed, the thing that stressed her out the most is trying to balance work life and home life. Beyoncé and her husband of 11 years, rapper Jay-Z, are the proud parents of 8-year-old Blue Ivy and 2-and-a-half-year-old twins Rumi and Sir.

“I think the most stressful thing for me is balancing work and life. Making sure I am present for my kids—dropping Blue off at school, taking Rumi and Sir to their activities, making time for date nights with my husband, and being home in time to have dinner with my family. Juggling all of those roles can be stressful, but I think that’s life for any working mom.”

Beyoncé Gets Honest About Miscarriage and Loving Herself

And the question Beyoncé hates getting asked the most is “are you pregnant?” She responds to the personal question by saying, “Get off my ovaries!”

The singer also opened up about how becoming a parent and enduring miscarriages during that journey has changed her perspective on life.

“I began to search for deeper meaning when life began to teach me lessons I didn’t know I needed. Success looks different to me now. I learned that all pain and loss is in fact a gift. Having miscarriages taught me that I had to mother myself before I could be a mother to someone else. Then I had Blue, and the quest for my purpose became so much deeper. I died and was reborn in my relationship, and the quest for self became even stronger.

Beyoncé continued, “It’s difficult for me to go backward. Being ‘number one’ was no longer my priority. My true win is creating art and a legacy that will live far beyond me. That’s fulfilling.”

And after having a difficult pregnancy with her twins, Beyoncé also revealed that self-care is something that has become very important to her. “After having a difficult pregnancy, I took a year to focus on my health. I have researched information on homeopathic medicines. I don’t just put any prescription in my body. My diet is important, and I use tools like acupuncture, meditation, visualization, and breathing exercises.”

She added, “Many of us grew up seeing our parents act as if they were superheroes. Most women have been conditioned to ignore symptoms and just ‘tough it out’ and focus on taking care of everyone else before themselves. I am no longer one of those people.”

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And Beyoncé’s kids have also taught her to love herself more. “Children and maturity have taught me to value myself beyond my physical appearance and really understand that I am more than enough no matter what stage I’m at in life.”

She continued, “Giving zero f**ks is the most liberating place to be. Also knowing true beauty is something you cannot see. I wish more people focused on discovering the beauty within themselves rather than critiquing other folks’ grills.”

Nonetheless, aside from being one of the world’s most famous pop stars, a fashion designer, a business owner, and more, Beyoncé told Elle that her greatest role is “being Blue, Rumi, and Sir’s mom.”