A mom writes in asking for advice about co-sleeping and getting her one-year-old daughter to start getting used to sleeping in her own bed. This single mom has co-slept with her daughter since she was born. She also wants to know how to feel more comfortable herself with her daughter not sleeping as close to her.
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A member of the community asks:
“How can I get my toddler used to sleeping in their own bed?
No judgment, please. I have a one-year-old daughter and I have co-slept since she was born. I wanna get her to sleep in her own bed. After she falls asleep for a nap I can put her down and she’ll stay asleep in the bed, but as a single mom, I don’t feel comfortable not having her next to me at night just in case something bad happens. How do I get over that? And how do I get her more and more use to sleeping in her bed?”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Has Been Co-Sleeping with Her Daughter and Wants to Know How to Get Her Used to Sleeping in Her Own Bed
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“It sounds like you’re having a harder time then she is with moving to her own bed, and that’s fine. I’m dealing with the same thing, my one-year-old is totally capable of sleeping in her bed, but sometimes I do sneak her with me, only because I miss her lol.”
“I was the same way. I ended up buying my daughter a bed and put it in my room, but she wakes up and comes to my bed but then again my daughter still does not sleep through the night.”
“We all totally get the protectiveness and yes, they are only little for a little while. I don’t think it will be difficult to get her in her own bed in her own room. You seem to be the one having difficulty. Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings on the subject. I loved my daughter in my bed, but it was just time. I even miss it. I guess the goal could be that everyone CAN sleep in their own beds in their own rooms but don’t always have to.”
“Start off by sleeping with her in her room, then every time she falls asleep, then get up n go to your room. I had to do this with all 3 of my boys and soon have to do it again. The only thing that’s different is I never co-sleep with them. They were just in my room until they hit 1. Then I moved them to their own room. It took a couple of weeks but they all sleep in their own beds. And have not had a problem since them. And for its other its hard not to worry but I suggest getting a baby monitor. It helps ease you too about being away from her.”
“Put her bed in your room. You both get your own beds, but you can wake up and see her.”
“Create a nighttime routine and stick to it. Mine got a bath at the same time every night. I’d lotion them down and talk to them about what big boys and girls do. Read a bedtime story and tucked them in and kissed them. Johnson & Johnson lavender baby wash and lotion works wonders. My kids called it the knockout drug.”
“Just wait until you are both ready. There’s nothing wrong with it.”
“You can read all the suggestions and at the end of the day… it’s your family so do what is best for you. My kids are 16 and 18 yrs old and you never get that time back. So take your time, hug and kiss them and tell them you love them. Guide them in the right direction, teach them about Jesus, and the rest will fall into place. You got this! You are a wonderful mom!”
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