A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband, who, she says, invited people over to the house without asking her first. This was upsetting for this mom because she’d been looking forward to spending some one-on-one time with their daughter, which could not happen due to the surprise guests. Is this mom wrong for feeling upset?
A member of the community asks:
“My husband invited people over without asking me: Advice?
Can you please post. I have been working for the last two weeks with no days off. I have not seen my 5 years except to pick her up from her grandparents and put her to be when I get home. I finally got a day off and was planning on spending it with her and getting caught up on housework.
My husband invited friends to the house without asking me. The husband is coming over to help my husband and help him do some work. My husband said it’s not right to get the guy to come over and help without asking the wife to come and hang out with me. But I’m upset because if the friends come over they are going to bring their kids and my daughter is not going to spend time with me. Am I wrong for being upset that my husband didn’t ask?”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Wondering if She Is Right to Be Upset Her Husband Invited People Over Without Asking First
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“I mean communication is a great thing to have. I’d be peeved if my husband didn’t let me know people were coming over and they just showed up. But he let you know he invited them. He could’ve definitely run it by you first. I don’t think it’s anything to get super upset over though.”
“Take your daughter out to do something. Leave before the people get there. Spend the day with her away from the house.”
“Your husband lives there also and he is an adult. He really doesn’t need to ask He just should notify you that people are coming over.”
“I’d be getting my daughter organized and leaving before they turned up, letting him be the host to the wife and the kids and the lot, he invited them, that’s on him, you have plans. You have worked for 2 weeks straight if you organized something for your husband after he had worked those hours how happy would he be? Just do your own thing…”
“Yeah I’d take my kid and leave for the day. Make him entertain the wife and do his project and see how he likes it. You stuck to your plan momma. Take that girl to get some food, go for a walk, girls day it up!”
“Not sure why you have to entertain his wife. Why can the guy come over and help and then leave?”
“I don’t think you’re wrong at all. It is a matter of respect and consideration. My boyfriend of a year has had to learn this about me. It was a bit of a struggle, but he gets it now. He seems worried about leaving the friend’s wife out, but not about your feelings… that would not fly with me.”
“I would take your daughter out since you had planned for just you and her. Do not feel guilty.”
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