My Husband’s Step-Father Has Been Making Me Feel Uncomfortable: What Should I Do?

A mom writes in asking for advice after she and her husband moved in with her husband’s mom and step-father. At first, everything was good, but then her husband’s stepdad started putting his hands on her hips and wrapping his arms around her waist. Everything about it makes this mom uncomfortable and now she’s wondering if she should tell her husband about it?

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A member of the community asks:

“My husband and I just recently made a massive move to a different state. We moved in with his mom and stepdad, everything is wonderful!!! But lately, his stepdad is starting to weird me out. He constantly walks up behind me, grabs my hips in a ‘playful’ way, and says ‘hey’ or whatever. It’s just weird!!!

Well last night I was standing in the kitchen with my husband’s mom who I guess is either blind or doesn’t think anything of it but my husband’s stepdad walked up behind me put his arms all way around my waist (like a husband would) and asked me how my day was!!! I really wanna tell my husband that is stepdad is doing these things, and it’s making me feel some type of way, but I’m also terribly afraid to start anything!!! HELP should I tell my husband?”

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Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Left Unsure How to Confront Her Husband’s Step-Father

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Advice Summary


Many of the people giving this mom advice were pretty much on the same page: it’s time to tell her husband she’s uncomfortable. One person wrote, “Tell him to stop. If he doesn’t, record [yourself] telling him you’re not comfortable with it, so you can show your husband.”

Another woman added, “Just nicely say that you don’t like people being close to you and that you prefer no touching… Start saving money and move.”

And one more person said, “I think I would keep it light at first because if you get really nasty towards him lots of drama might follow. I think I would say, ‘Whoa pops I thought you were my hubby coming up behind me. It gives me the creeps when I turn around and it’s you, pops. Did you mistake me for [your wife?’ I would say it out loud, maybe he will get the point without rocking the boat.”

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