A mom writes in asking for advice after she believes her stepdaughter from a past relationship was trying to attract the attention of her new husband when she comes over to visit her younger sibling. Now, this mom is reaching out to others to see if she should be worried.
A member of the community asks:
“I have an 18-year-old stepdaughter from a previous relationship and also a daughter of my own from the relationship as well. My stepdaughter comes to spend time with my daughter every now and then, which is wonderful that they have a bond. I remarried about six years ago to a man that is a few years younger than me. We’re in our 30’s. I just get these vibes like my stepdaughter is trying to get attention from my husband, and I would like advice from outside sources.
I don’t know if I’m just paranoid or if it is really something that I should be concerned about. For instance, she comes to visit and immediately changes into short shorts that are definitely inappropriate, and when we go swimming and stuff in the summertime, it seems like she always wants his attention, and I catch her looking in his direction. And most of the time it’s when I leave to go get a drink or to use the restroom, she will be over there playing around and showing off but doesn’t do it when I’m around.
I know that she had started talking to a gentleman at her job that was 25 and later found it that he had a girlfriend and a child on the way, but she continued to pursue it for some reason. I would just like feedback on other people’s opinions and what they think I should do? If it’s something I should be worried about.”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Thinks Her Stepdaughter Has Eyes for Her Husband
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
According to the community, it’s important for this mom to set boundaries. One commenter wrote, “Talk to her and set boundaries, like not being able to stay overnight but also ask your husband if he has noticed the behavior. Maybe he has noticed it and ignored it because he doesn’t want to say anything that would upset you.”
Another person shared, “In the event, your husband hasn’t noticed what she is doing and does not reciprocate her attempts, I would be mindful about bringing it up and drawing his attention to it. Have a quiet word with her but unless he is doing something wrong I wouldn’t bring him into it yet.”
And one person said, “Okay I’m sorry but after a certain point you shouldn’t be calling her your stepdaughter when she’s not that anymore. She knows what she’s doing. You need to set boundaries. Maybe the ex-husband is telling her to do that to make you uncomfortable? Who knows but something for sure ain’t right.”
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