How Do I Get My 8-Year-Old to Start Treating Me Better?

A mom writes in asking for advice. her 8-year-old son is treating her horribly and she wants to know how to get him to treat her better. She has tried many discipline techniques but to none avail. Nothing seems to be working, only getting worse. He has also started to teach his younger siblings how to make her upset. Any advice for this mom?

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A member of the community asks:

“I am a mother of 6 beautiful babies. My oldest just turned 8 at the beginning of the month and he’s been giving me attitude for about 3 months now. I have spanked his butt, put him in time out and took his tablet away from me and made him stop watching WWE, which is his favorite show. But, he still treats me bad. He also is starting to show his little sister how to treat me too! What do I do?”

– Mamas Uncut Community Member

Community Advice for This Mom Needing Help with Discipline

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Advice Summary


Many commenters thought that her 8-year-old son was treating her badly because he wants one-on-one time with her. One said, “Try to give him some one-on-one if you can. Sit and watch WWE for a half-hour, or show some interest in what he likes. He probably just wants that time with you.” Another advised, “I would get him into therapy where he can vent and maybe you can get to the bottom of his behaviors.”

Another commenter agreed, “He may be feeling the stress of not being with you or not getting enough attention from you. If you punish him at least your talking to him at that point he has your undivided attention which is what he’s needing. My advice is to make a little personal time for him and reassure him that you love him just as much. Perhaps delegate him small responsibilities so he will fit in with the rest of the family.”

One mom shared a personal experience with her son. She shared, “My oldest is 10 and around that same age we noticed him starting to act out in similar ways to what you are describing. It took a lot of coaxing but we found out he had started being bullied at school. Now we know when he has had a bad day because he comes home with an attitude and picks on his siblings.”

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