A mom writes in asking for advice. She thinks her best friend is getting together with her husband. On Facebook, they are both in every single one of each other’s pictures. She found them talking on the phone more recently as well. What concerns this mom is that her best friend has always been more touchy with her husband, but she also trusted her and gave her the benefit of the doubt. Now, she is unsure what to do. Any advice for this mom?
A member of the community asks:
“So, I am not for sure. But I have the weirdest feeling that my best friend and husband are seeing each other. Recently, she has been in every single photo he posts on Facebook. He has been doing the same for her. Not only that, but I have caught them on the phone a few times and he has told me they were discussing ‘birthday plans’ for me.
The thing is, my birthday isn’t until next summer so I don’t believe them. She has always been touchy-feely with him but I have always trusted her so I never thought anything of it. That’s just her personality. I feel like I am making things up in my head and don’t want to accuse them but something truly does feel off to me and I just don’t know what to think. What would you do?”
Community Advice for This Mom Having Doubts
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
There was some great advice given to this mom who thinks her best friend and husband are seeing each other. One suggested, “Go to Best Buy and buy a small handheld tape recorder; the kind the college kids use to record in classes. Turn it on when you leave and put it under the couch where it can’t be seen.”
Many commenters talked about communicating with both of them. One advised, ” Get together with both of them at the same time. Ask them flat out if they are having an affair. If they say no, then ask to see both their phones. If they refuse, then that’s your answer. Innocent husbands and best friends wouldn’t have a problem letting you see their phones.” Another agreed, “Even if you don’t have any evidence of foul play, there’s no reason you can’t tell them both (individually) that you are not comfortable with the touching and flirting and you would appreciate it if he/she would put an end to it.”
Other commenters encouraged her to follow her gut feelings. One said, “Ask sincere questions, watch body language and pay attention to answers and how they are given. You’ll know. You shouldn’t feel this way. Even if you’re wrong, something is going on somewhere.” Another commented, “Where there’s smoke there’s fire, so trust your instincts. You’ll have to find out the sneaky way because they’ll never admit it, at least for now.”
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