When Should I Be More Modest in Front of My Son?

A mom writes in asking for advice. She is a single mom to a 17-month-old son. When she needs to shower, she simply puts her son in the bathroom with toys while she bathes. She does this to make sure he is safe while she showers. However, she is wondering when she needs to start being more modest in front of her son. This is her first child and doesn’t know what to do. Any advice for this mom?

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A member of the community asks:

“I’m a single mom of a 17-month-old boy. When I need to shower and he is awake I set him up with toys in my bathroom, so I know he is safe. What age should I start being more modest and not let him see me naked? He is my first so I’m just figuring it out as I go. Thanks for the thoughts in advance!”

– Mamas Uncut Community Member

Community Advice for This Mom Curious About Modesty

To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.

Advice Summary


Advice for this mom was pretty unanimous. Most said that once her son starts asking questions and retaining memories that it should be time to cover up more, which is between the ages of 3-5. One commented, “I read an article when my kids were little that said around 3.”

Others said when he starts to question things, it is probably time to stop. One commenter mentioned, “maybe when he starts asking questions about the anatomy.” Others shared experiences relating to their kids and how they stopped. Many shared about their kids pointing and asking questions, while others laughed and that ended things.

Other commenters shared that it is ultimately up to you to decide when to be more modest in front of her son. One mentioned, “when you get uncomfortable with it,” while another stated, “my son is 2 and still showers with me. It really just depends on the kid and your comfort. Once mine is old enough to be curious about stuff is when I’ll draw the line.”

Another commenter concluded with, “around 3 kids start retaining memories, so personally, with my son, I’d stop letting him see me around age 2 or 2 1/2. Although I was a single mom with my daughter and it was a lot harder. So I think in your situation just do the best you can. I know it’s hard to do it on your own.”

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