A mom writes in seeking advice. She says that her husband, who works very long hours, is never around or engaged even when he’s off of work. She has no support network, no adults to talk to during the day, and she is feeling very lonely and worn down. Let’s see what advice other moms have for her.
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A member of the community asks:
“I need to vent. I am a stay-at-home mom to a 6-year-old and a 2-month-old. My husband works long hours. 4 am to 4 pm, Monday through Friday. I don’t have a vehicle, so I can’t leave the house throughout the day, and I have to find a ride for my kids’ doctors appointments whenever they have them.
This is really taking a toll on me. I don’t have any mom friends, and some family that I do talk to, they work during the day, of course. I am lonely and bored. I have to do everything and figure everything out on my own. When my husband comes home, he comes home to a dinner plate and no stress, and he doesn’t wake up with the baby at night and will only help out half the time on the weekends.
We had an argument this morning because he wanted to go hang out with his dad and go get new tires on his truck and get an oil change. He wouldn’t wait for us to get ready (would have taken 20 mins). He just wanted to go by himself, leaving me at home again alone with all of the kids and nobody to talk to. I told him how I felt, and he just tells me I’m in the wrong, and he can’t even get out to take care of his truck without me b*tching.
I’m just lonely and worn out. He doesn’t realize that he is the only thing I have to look forward to all day because I finally have a grown-up to talk to. Am I the only one who goes through this?!
Community Advice for This Lonely, Worn-Out Mom
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Many moms expressed sympathy, having gone through a similar phase of housebound loneliness. Motherhood can be very isolating when you don’t have anyone to talk to or anything to do other than take care of kids. We love our kids, of course, but they aren’t exactly a substitute for adult human interaction.
A lot of commenters suggested the OP make an effort to build a support network. Hop online and search for mom groups in your area. Find Facebook groups for moms. Go to the park, talk to other moms who are there with their kids. Make friends, make playdates. You’ll be surprised to learn just how many lonely people are out there looking for a connection.
Of course, OP’s husband should be making more of an effort to make his wife feel less alone and burdened. OP, try talking to him, explaining your loneliness. Tell him how trapped you feel and how it is driving you crazy. Make him understand that, for your own health and the health of your family, things need to change.
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