A mom writes in asking for advice. Her husband travels for work Monday through Friday. This mom works part-time and is the primary caregiver for their baby during the work week. On weekends, when her husband is home, mom asks him to get up with the baby in the night or watch the baby for a bit during the day so she can sleep or relax. Her husband says these requests are unreasonable. What do you think?
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A member of the community asks:
“Am I being unreasonable asking my husband for a break from the baby on the weekends when he’s home? He works full time traveling, so he’s away Monday through Friday. I work part time, and take care of our daughter whenever I’m not at work. When he’s home I ask him to get up with her or to take her for a little bit so I can relax/sleep, but it always becomes a fight or he tells me I’m being unreasonable.“
Community Advice for This Mom Who Needs Some “Me-Time” But Her Husband Thinks She’s Being Unreasonable
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Most commenters agreed that since the OP is the primary caretaker of the couple’s daughter during the week, that she deserves a break on the weekends and it’s not unreasonable to ask for one. As one commenter said: “Not unreasonable at all. You work hard mama and you deserve some time alone, doing whatever it may be to take care of your sanity. Otherwise, how are you going to take care of the baby if you are not taking care of yourself?”
Other commenters also pointed out that since Dad is away during the week, the weekends offer crucial bonding time with their daughter. “Yeah all dads should be dads. My boyfriend takes him from me without me even asking because he loves to be a dad,” says one commenter. “It’s not babysitting it’s co-parenting!!! I hope it gets easier for you mama. You’re supposed to be a team and team members work together!”
That said, many commenters noted that Dad is also working hard during the week and exhaustion runs both ways. They suggested trying to take turns: perhaps one of you can sleep in on Saturday and the other on Sunday. At the end of the day, you have to figure out a routine that gives both of you time to recharge away from baby.
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