A mom writes in asking for advice because she’s upset her husband’s parents keep buying her 10-month-old son things she wanted to buy for him. He is their first grandchild and her in-laws are enjoying being able to spoil their grandbaby. Now the mom is wondering if she’s overreacting because she’s upset over the things they do for her son?
A member of the community asks:
“I have a 10-month-old baby, and he is the first grandbaby for my in-laws. With the holidays coming, they are buying him his first Thanksgiving outfit, and also they just got him his first Christmas PJs. These don’t bother me that much, but they also got him an ornament that says ‘My First Christmas’ and his name on it. Am I wrong for being so upset about this?
I feel like this should be something I buy for him. They didn’t even ask before they got it. I don’t know what to do because it bothers me. I tell my husband and he just says. ‘I didn’t know what to say?’ I’m at my wits end with their need to be in control. Help, please, any advice would be GREAT.”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Upset With Her In-Laws
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Fan QuestionMy in laws are buying my baby things that I wanted to buy: Am I over reacting?I have a ten-month-old…Posted by Mamas Uncut on Saturday, November 16, 2019
Just be grateful. One commenter wrote, “I can’t believe a parent is complaining about gifts being bought …lol just stop and be grateful!! It’s TIME spent with the child you should be saving up, not material things ….I’m happy for this parent, her child has everything!”
Another mom wrote, “How fantastic is it that your in-laws love your child, that your child will grow up with grandparents that love and spoils him/her? When my son was 6 months old my in-laws didn’t come to visit for 4 months straight, I tried, I did and then I gave up. Be thankful your child has the opportunity, many many many kids don’t have grandparents or worse have grandparents who don’t care. Should you want your child to wear something else, you can buy it too, kids’ clothes get dirty and then you can switch to the next outfit.”
And one person added, “Remember it’s special for them too. If it bothers you, tell them to please let you buy the gifts. They will understand. Good luck.”
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