A mom writes in asking for advice after she’s left wondering if she should do a DNA test. She said one of the potential fathers of her daughter wants nothing to do with them and the other potential dad has been there for them every step of the way. Have any advice for this mom?
A member of the community asks:
“My daughter just turned one in September. The guy who raised her for the first year and was there all through the pregnancy might not be the father as we took a little break right before I got pregnant. The other guy who could possibly be the father denies it all and says there’s no chance he’s the father. The guy who was always by my side knows there’s a possibility of my daughter not being his, and he’s been there every step of the way. My question is, should I get a DNA test to find out for sure?
I believe my kid deserves to know who her father is. But at the same time, one of the possibilities already made it clear he wants nothing to do with her. So should I leave it alone and just let the guy who has been here for the last year continue to be the father figure since no matter what, he’s always supported us? And be the father role model to my daughter while the other guy has had no contact since before my daughter was born?”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Isn’t Sure If She Should Have a DNA Test Done on Her Daughter
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Fan QuestionShould I get a DNA test on my daughter if the possible dad doesn't want anything to do with her?My…Posted by Mamas Uncut on Wednesday, November 6, 2019
While many commenters say let the man who wants to be the father, be the father, some say she should know who the biological father is for health reasons.
One commenter wrote, “If I had a question in my mind. I would have to know for sure. One day you may need to know for your child’s health reasons. Best to do it now. The father who takes care of the baby has the option to get legal rights, if you choose to, should he not be the [biological dad.]”
Another commenter added, “Does it really matter? The man who’s helping raise her is her father, that’s all you need to know.” And one more said, “If there wasn’t a chance of genetic illness like asthma I would say leave it but even if he is the dad, don’t force him to be involved, she has a daddy.”
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