A mom writes in asking for advice on whether she should go for custody of her siblings. Her mother contacted her, asking her to come pick up her younger siblings because she lost her home. That was in April, now that it is November, the mom is no longer in contact with her mom and is still caring for her siblings.
Now she’s left wondering if she should stop waiting for her mom to come back around, get custody of her siblings, and give them some stability. Do you have any advice to give this confused mom?
A member of the community asks:
“I have been living in Colorado for over a year with my husband and five-year-old. In April, I went to go pick up my three siblings from my mother, who is two, almost three, states away because she lost her house that she had. She said it would be temporary. However, it is November now, and she stopped being able to give me money in September. And recently, in that past week, lost communication with us.
I have been doing everything I can for them. She’s out there with her new husband, who’s the same age as me and is in and out of jail, and on drugs. So my question is, should I get custody [of my siblings]? I already went to the county building to get cash aid, and they automatically will put her on child support. I talked to my husband, he doesn’t mind but I’m so conflicted.”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Is Thinking About Getting Custody of Her Siblings
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Fan QuestionShould I go for custody of my siblings?I have been living in Colorado for over a year with my husband…Posted by Mamas Uncut on Monday, November 11, 2019
It’s a resounding “yes” from this community of moms. One mom commented, “YES! [It’s the] best thing for the kids! They need stability and you are able and willing to provide it.”
Another woman added, “My dear, bless you for stepping up!! It seems you are the best chance they have!! Why do you feel conflicted?? If you can do it without sacrificing your own well being, I say yes!!”
And a second mom wrote, “YES!!!! I did the same for my niece and have NEVER regretted my decision!!!!”
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