A mom writes in asking for advice after a few girls in her young daughter’s class pointed out the hair above her lip and the thickness of her eyebrows. Now, the mom’s daughter wants to pluck and shave the hair on her face because she’s embarrassed. However, the mom worries her daughter is too young. Any advice for her?
A member of the community asks:
“My 12-year-old daughter wants to do something with the hair above her upper lip, and she wants to tame her eyebrows. I’ve noticed in the last few months that both are getting to be very noticeably thick, dark, and unruly, but I never said anything to her because, at her age, this isn’t something she needs to worry about.
However, a couple of girls from school have (sort of) politely brought these to her attention, and now she is totally embarrassed and is determined she is getting it taken care of. I understand how she feels because I have to stay on top of my own and I am super self-conscious about it, but I just don’t know if it’s appropriate to start her shaving her upper lip and plucking her eyebrows at 12 years old. (I say shaving and plucking because waxing is out of the question at this point.)
She did start having her legs over the summer if this makes any difference. Should I make her leave the facial hair alone until she is older, or do I show her how to take care of it?”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Young Daughter Wants to Shave Her Lip and Eyebrow
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Fan QuestionWhat is an appropriate age for my daughter to get her eyebrows done?My 12-year-old daughter wants to do…Posted by Mamas Uncut on Saturday, November 23, 2019
She’s not too young, so long as it is necessary. One commenter wrote, “I started to shave my legs around 12 or 13 years old. Maybe look into threading for her facial hair. It’s not very painful, and if done in the right place, it’s so nice. I wouldn’t shave her face. Wax may hurt, so threading is probably a better choice.”
Another mom added, “I would do anything to add to the self-confidence of my daughter. Given it’s a healthy alternative. Take her to get them threaded!”
And one person said, “Best to get it done before she takes it into her own hands. My mom wouldn’t let me shave and I not only did it anyway I also shaved my arms. My arm hair grew back in super dark and thicker. Make it a mom and daughter thing. Go for a spa day once in a while. Who knows, if she can’t stand waxing or plucking maybe she’ll decide it’s not worth it for a few more years.”
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