One boyfriend is asking Reddit for advice after his girlfriend publicly called out a lie during the first time he had dinner with her parents.
“If I eat something that I don’t like, my nostrils flair. It’s involuntary and I can’t stop it from happening but at the same time it’s not super obvious if you’re not looking for it. As a result, my parents know about it and my girlfriend knows.”
“Anyway, earlier today I met my girlfriend’s family for the first time, so I was pretty nervous and wanted to make a good impression. It turns out her mum had made a dish I detest: I’d never order it out of choice and it has some ingredients I hate. But, given the fact I’m an adult, and wanting to come across well, I decide not to say anything and just eat what was served.”
But the OP’s girlfriend wasn’t going to let him get away with it..
“I take a spoon and it was awful, but I carry on. When GF’s mum asks me how I like it, I say it’s very good. At this point, GF says ‘haha he’s so cute when he lies, mum he hates it, look at how his nose goes when he has a spoon!’”
“At this point I’d just had another spoon and her mum noticed, and it was very awkward from then on in. I tried to apologise, but she kept beating herself up on how silly she was to make something and not ask. Her dad told me I was being rude my making my dislike apparent and that it was poor manners.”
To make matters worse, the GF didn’t see where she went wrong — leaving the OP feeling helpless.
“After that the whole meal was a bit awkward and after we left I was upset and asked my GF why she couldn’t have just backed me up a bit, or even not exposed my fib. Like, yeah I didn’t want to eat it, but I’d have forced myself through and then it would have been over. She said I was being dramatic and that it was actually a quite funny, but I see it as sort of throwing fuel on what was already a pretty stressful event for me.”
One person commented: “Sounds to me like she gets off on causing conflict. She knew damn well OP was nervous about this dinner (what significant other isn’t when it comes to meeting family? I mean come on,) she knew what foods he dislikes but didn’t say anything to the parents…. Once he was stuck with dinner, she’d rather put him on the spot, brutally bash her mother’s feelings and efforts, and essentially sicced (sicked?) her father on you knowing he’d stand up for his wife.”
While another said: “THIS. OP, major red flag here. Your gf is an AH. You can do better.”
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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