A mom writes in asking for advice about bullying. She says her child is being bullied at school and that she has actually witnessed said bullying. What are some ways she can address the issue and put an end to the bullying? She turns to the community for support and advice. We’ve included some of the community’s feedback below. But what would you do if your child was being bullied at school?
A member of the community asks:
“How should I handle my child being bullied at school?”
“What do you do when your kids are being bullied at school and you actually witnessed it?”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Child Is Being Bullied at School
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“If words don’t stop bullying, your kid should punch them in the face. If that doesn’t work, punch the bully’s parents in the face.”
“Teach your kids to defend themselves and not take crap from the bullies. I know it’s not the best advice and violence doesn’t solve anything but I went through it with my oldest and after begging the school and bus driver to help with no results I had my son defend himself. The bullying stopped.”
“Always told our son, don’t swing first but you had better defend yourself. I know he would have gotten into more trouble than the bully but we didn’t care. And I know people are gonna start ‘oh he’s a bully too,’ no the punk who picked on him, swung at him first is the bully, my son is just defending himself because they never taught their child how to be a decent human being.”
“I went to EVERYBODY in the school. Counselors, teachers, aides, student Dean, vice-principal, principal, bus drivers. I even got on the bus and got mad at the high school kids picking on my 3rd grader… After that, told my son to go for it. No one wants to help… When he fought back guess what happened? They blamed him for beating up the white kid that had been picking on him the whole 3 years and my son whooped him… It just depends. Tell him to hold his ground… If u have done EVERYTHING you can legally… after that let him loose.”
“Tell your child to stand their ground. Yeah, they will get blamed, because victims are always blamed, but don’t allow your child to just stand around and let it happen.”
“I don’t take bullying light at all. I was severely bullied where it caused my mental health to decline at only 11-year-old, had to be medicated, taken out of school to be homeschooled, counseling/therapy. I was & still am traumatized. Therefore today I’d tell my child to whoop as$. It isn’t the answer for everything & I’m a peacemaker more than anything but my parents talked to the school/cops had many meetings nothing worked. I now advocate for myself & those who are bullied.”
“Teach them to defend themselves. Bullies bully because they think you are weak. I told mine, ‘Don’t start a fight but don’t be scared to finish one.’ If it’s verbal bullying tell your kids to toughen up. All their lives they will have somebody verbally abusing them. Either ignore it or come up with great comebacks. Teachers do not care so a zero-tolerance policy at school means nothing. Teach the kids to handle it.”
“Do what you think is right and tell your child to never feel guilty for defending themselves!”
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