A mom writes in asking for advice about a situation with her in-laws. She says her in-laws “feel like it was inappropriate” that this mom posted photos of her own daughter at her cake smash because her daughter was “only in her tutu.” The in-laws accused this mom of invading her own daughter’s privacy. This mom is offended but doesn’t know how to handle the situation.
A member of the community asks:
“My in-laws are mad that I uploaded pictures of my daughter on social media: Advice?
Hey moms! I’m a little bothered by my in-law’s reaction to my daughter’s cake smash photos. They feel like it was inappropriate for my daughter to be only in her tutu during her cake smash photoshoot. They said I “invaded her privacy” by posting them on my social media. Now, I would NEVER exploit my child and was kind of offended when they asked me to take them down. They are very cute and innocent photos too. What are your thoughts about this?”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose In-Laws Are Mad She Posted Photos of Her Daughter on Social Media
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“If they don’t like it they can block you and come see her in person.”
“‘If you need help unfollowing me, let me know and I’ll be glad to help!'”
“I agree with your in-laws. This should maybe be put on a special chat where it’s just family only. There a lot of perverts out there that can get your IP address which means with they’ll know where your child is. Some of these perverts get fixated on kids, this is why kids are going missing left and right and you just exposed her.”
“It’s your baby and your choice to make, tell them ‘Sorry not sorry.'”
“It’s definitely 100% up to you and your husband. Grandparents have no say in what’s posted on social media. But if you don’t want your baby’s pictures posted, you can make that decision. As long as you have your profiles set to private, or at least her pictures, and only let people on your friends’ list see them, I don’t see the issue.”
“If anyone finds ANYTHING sexual about a one-year-old with their top off sexual then they’ve got a problem. When they’re older, sure, but it’s a baby for crying out loud. Babies are just wearing a diaper on diaper boxes.”
“She is YOUR daughter! Them sexualizing an innocent birthday photoshoot is disgusting and I wouldn’t hesitate to put them in their place.”
“How will she feel about those cute innocent photos when they are still on the internet when she is 16? 25? Once you post a photo it can be found forever.”
“Wow, um tell them where to go, I’ve seen kids in diapers with them smashing their cakes… No different, some people just aren’t worth arguing with. Just let it be and enjoy your child’s birthday.”
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