A 32-year-old adult man and lawyer has taken to the internet to better understand the do’s and don’t’s of marriage. In a post on Reddit’s AITA forum, the husband describes his current situation in which he has refused to clean a shower, but offered to pay a cleaning person to get the job done.
After noticing rust accumulating in a shower, his wife, 30, asked him to take care of it. While he sees nothing wrong, she insists he clean the shower himself.
‘AITA for Refusing to Clean But Offering to Pay for a Cleaner?’ One Husband Asked the Internet
After explaining that he has been married for two years, one husband described his current predicament. “We have a shower stall that only I use, and a bath that only my wife uses,” he wrote on Reddit. “The shower stall has accumulated some rust and I’m really not bothered by it, but my wife wanted it cleaned as it’s bothering her. She asked me to clean it, as I’m the only one who uses the shower.”
You might be wondering, ‘Why doesn’t he just clean the shower? It only takes a few minute,’ and, dear reader, the lawyer man sees your train of thought coming at him from a mile away.
“I said that I would hire a cleaner to come by and deal with it,” he admitted. “The reason for this is that I am a lawyer, I have the ability to take on as much work as I want, and if I spent the time it would take to clean the shower instead [of] doing my job for compensation, I would make about four times as much money as it would cost to hire a cleaner.”
“In my view it simply does not make economic sense for me to use my time personally cleaning the shower.”
So, the lawyer husband has come up with an economic explanation. Oh, thank god. What do you think his wife thought of that?
“My wife refused to let me hire someone to clean, saying she doesn’t want a stranger coming into our house and doing menial labour that I’m “too lazy” to do,” the husband continued in the post. “She finds this embarrassing. I refused to budge and my wife ended up just cleaning the shower herself, although begrudgingly and she’s giving me grief for it.”
“Who is in the wrong here? Thanks,” he concludes. And to that we say, no, thank you!
As you might expect, the comments on this post were wild, passionate, and even funny. The top comment points out the fallacy in the lawyer’s “time is money” argument.
“No the reason for this is that YTA [You’re the a**hole],” the top comment reads. “This is your winning argument that your time is too valuable to clean the shower?” it asks. “I hope you are a better lawyer than you are a husband.”
The same commenter followed added later, “Also: in the time it took you to post this on Reddit, you could have cleaned the shower, counselor.”
While that comment pretty much crystallizes the way this ‘AITA?’ has been received, it was far from the only negative response. Oh no, there’s much more where that comes from!
“YTA and it’s not because you’re behaving like a stereotype of a pompous lawyer or refusing to clean (the economic point about hiring out cleaning is actually a good point),” one well-received response reads. “It’s because you seem to think that your preference to pay someone to do something for you should outrank your wife’s discomfort with having a stranger in your house, and when you failed to understand that your wife has just as much of a right to say who can come into your house as you do, you tried to make it about something else (your rack rate) instead of maintaining a respectful domestic relationship.”
After being dragged by the whole of the internet, the lawyer-husband-man decided that he is indeed being an “a**hole” in this situation.
“I believe I might be the asshole because I refused to do the cleaning and allowed my wife to do it, even though I’m the one that uses the shower,” he later stated following the outpouring of criticism from the internet.
Who says good things can’t happen online?
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