A mom writes in asking for advice. She is feeling sad and lonely after giving birth to her first child eight months ago. The mom is now left wondering if she’s battling postpartum depression or if it’s just taking her some time adjusting to her new role of being a mom. Although she’s made an appointment to talk with a therapist, she wants to know if the way she’s feeling is normal?
A member of the community asks:
“How do you tell the difference between postpartum depression and just adjusting to mom-life? My daughter is 8 months old and today I’ve cried 5 times so far. I’ve gotten to where I really don’t like to be alone anymore. I’ve stayed home with her for 8 months now and I am so lonely. I feel so dull and lifeless. I love my daughter with everything in me but is this what motherhood is? I made an appointment next week to talk to a therapist, but I’m wondering if this is normal? I get so frustrated at the smallest things and get so angry so quickly and I have to step away for a moment. I love my baby so much but I feel like I’m not enjoying being a mom like I should. I know motherhood is hard. But I feel like I’m drowning…”– Mamas Uncut Community Member
Community Advice for This Woman Potentially Struggling with Postpartum Depression
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
“It’s so normal.” The majority of people who left comments on this post told the struggling mom that it’s completely normal to feel the way she’s feeling. It’s a completely new and difficult role being a mom for the first time, and one you’re never fully prepared for.
One fellow mom wrote, “It’s so normal. I’ve been home for 5 years and I have ups and downs. Talking to someone, getting out when you can and reading helps me!” And another agreed, “It’s sooo normal! Reach out for help… Talk to anyone. I had it bad with my first one I was a mess never felt good enough the stress and exhaustion overwhelmed me. But it gets easier.”
Then one commenter suggested that the mom find interesting activities that she and her baby can do together. “You need to get out & DO things with your baby! Find Mommy & Me playgroups, go visit older relatives, visit Chuck E Cheese, find an indoor park or play place. Being a mom is about being on the next big adventure WITH your child.”
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