A mom writes in asking for advice about giving an expensive gift to a relative. This mom says she wants to gift Gucci shoes to her husband’s sister’s son, who is just one-year-old. Her husband, however, thinks it is an inappropriate gift because his sister is going through an expensive divorce and could not afford to give those shoes herself. Should she give the gift of Gucci or not?
A member of the community asks:
“Would it be wrong to gift my husband’s sister son Gucci shoes?
My husband’s sister has a 1-year-old and is going through a divorce. I want to get him the cutest Gucci shoes. He and I are doing well enough to afford it with no kids of our own. His sister is going through an expensive divorce. He told me to return the shoes because it’s not right to gift the boy with a gift his own parents may not be able to afford. And it’s “not right” showing them up. I don’t mind. I thought they were cute. We’re okay with it. Is he right? Will it make her feel bad?”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Wants to Know If It’s Appropriate to Gift Gucci Shoes
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“If he says it’s not right about his own family, you should respect it. If she’s had struggles recently, why don’t you give her son a gift card or spend an equal amount of money in a variety of gifts? He’s 1, he doesn’t care about Gucci shoes, you’re not celebrities, I think it’s ridiculous too.”
“Gift him the shoes. Buy mumma something special as well. Or book a girls spa day and a babysitter (grandma?)Pamper that woman and spoil her baby. They both deserve it.”
“I would return them only because the baby will hardly wear them….. spend that same money on something the baby can use for a long time or on building memories like a special trip or outing …. or a toy that can grow with him like a basic swing set or a battery ride.”
“Coming from someone who doesn’t have extra money to spend on expensive items for their kids… give them to her. I am grateful for anything that anyone gifts my daughters.”
“A 1-year-old doesn’t need Gucci shoes…”
“I’ve been on the receiving end of this and honestly, I was thrilled my kid had something nice even if it wasn’t me that bought it to each their own I guess.”
“Since she’s going through an expensive divorce, I’m sure the gesture of offering her the money you spent on the shoes would mean much more to her. As for the 1-year-old, he’ll appreciate a bottle of bubbles much more than expensive shoes.”
“Ummm if someone wants to give my kids expensive stuff I may not be able to afford GO FOR IT!! It’s not gonna make me feel bad at all!”
“Kids grow too quickly. It’s a waste to get something he’ll be grown out of so fast.”
“It isn’t wrong, but it isn’t practical. Maybe they could use a gift card for the same amount and mom can use it with her discretion and get things that the child really could use.”
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