This isn’t the first time we’ve heard some debate about husbands spending too much quality time in the bathroom in the name of getting out of household duties. In this case, a woman posted on the Reddit forum, “Am I The A**hole,” to share her winning strategy in dealing with her husband’s inconvenient need to go number two.
In this case, the woman admitted that she turns off the WiFi when her husband is in the bathroom in an attempt to speed things along.
The woman wrote that she and her husband took parental leave together to care for their newborn twins. However, things have gotten a bit tense because, as she writes, “Anytime my husband SHOULD be doing something with the children (it’s his turn for a diaper, a bottle, even just soothing a fussy newborn) he ALWAYS goes to the bathroom first.”
She noted that while it’s not the end of the world, he has been spending more time in there over the past few months. “He always takes his phone,” she writes. “He is always watching YouTube. His average session is 25 minutes in there, often longer, rarely shorter.”
She revealed that she has tried to discuss it with her husband on multiple occasions, but nothing has changed, as well as noting that her husband plays video games for a substantial part of the day. Because of her frustration, she decided to try something new and began turning the WiFi off if her husband is in the bathroom for more than 10 minutes.
Let’s just say that people were not into the idea of the husband spending so much time during the day on himself, whether it be in the bathroom or playing video games.
“What kind of partner leaves their spouse alone with TWO babies that need to be tended to? I’d be pissed,” one person commented.
“Dad of three here, he needs to step it up,” another said. “I strongly recommend couple’s counseling. Being a new parent is hard in ways you have never experienced so you don’t have coping strategies at all, let alone healthy ones.”
Overwhelmingly, people were very supportive of the new mom and hoped she and her husband could find a compromise. Generally speaking, they felt that he could “step it up” and not treat his paternity leave as an “extended vacation.”
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