Divorce / Separations

Needing advice on how to leave my childs father?

I’m just curious how mamas with two small children found the courage to leave? My kids are 3 and 1, and their dad is a complete asshole. I forgave him for cheating on me while I was pregnant with our youngest and regret it every day. Just as an example of his behavior yesterday, he called me lazy and accused me of cheating on him because I didn’t go grocery shopping. Anyways, I’m terrified to leave because I have no familial support here, but I want out. I don’t want my kids thinking this is normal or acceptable behavior. Thanks, mamas. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Can I put a stop to my request for child support?

So my partner and I are separating. We are not married. We have a child together and another on the way. I sent out an application to the AOG (attorney general office) to get child support. We do not have a court order yet. So it’s just the application I sent off. We have decided to make the payments without trying to involve the AOG, but how do I go about it? Do I call and withdraw my application? Since there is no court order set out, I was wondering if that would even be a possibility. Can anyone shine some light on this situation for me? I’m in Texas btw if that helps. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My exes wife hates me and I just want a civil relationship: Advice?

I and my baby daddy have been separated for eight years, he is married now, and I’m engaged to be married. We have always had custody/child support issues, and we have 0 communication only when he’s on his way for our son or little Things here and there. His wife HATES ME like she cannot stand me, mind you they got together two years after we separated, so there was never any cheating or anything. She doesn’t say hi, she doesn’t let him talk to me, and sometimes she even belittles my son. I have tried in the past to talk to my baby daddy and try to make peace for our son. She has a son of her own whom my son loves to be with. I just want to have a mature relationship where we can do things together like bday parties or celebrations when my son gets an award..all together! His family loves me, and we have a great relationship, so with them, it’s absolutely no problem! The problem is her, and the fact that he listens to her! My fiancée messes around and says my baby daddy still probably loves me, but I just think he …

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My ex brought other women around my kids while we were together: Can I use that in court?

Ever since my soon-to-be ex-husband moved out, my daughter’s have been telling me of the women he would bring over. They are four and 6yo, so the conversations usually go something like, “.. dad’s old girlfriend..etc. etc.” There is one woman I specifically used to ask him about, and he would get mad and accuse me of not letting him have friends. My question is, I am filing for full custody because he has repeatedly abandoned us over the years, leaving me to care for our children financially and every other way- if I brought this up as part of my argument in court, will it have any effect? As far as gaining custody, has anyone ever had the odds in their favor because of the spouse cheating? If so, how? Thanks in advance. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My daughter doesn;t want to talk to her father: Advice?

Any advice will help. My eight year old is refusing to speak to her father. Every time my phone rings and his name pops up, she huffs and says No, or she will jerk her head and shoulder real snotty and just turn away like she is ignoring the fact that I told her he is calling. It has gradually gotten worse since she got back from his house in July. She visits him for one month every year because he lives up north and we live down south. Due to “financial difficulties and the travel difficulties,” he only sees her for the one month of the year. A month ago she told him she didn’t want to come to his house for the summer and she wanted to stay at my house for the whole summer. She tried in her nicest way to tell him, and he, of course, turned around and made her feel just awful. My daughter has had a rough few years with trusting adults, and them making her feel like crap and putting her into an all-time low. Instead of him trying to make things better, he hung up with her, feeling extremely upset. Now …

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*TRIGGER WARNING* I found disturbing things on my exes ipad and don’t know what to do: Advice?

My sons dad and I are divorced I have been fighting like hell for two years of his life to get supervised visits through Dhs because dad is a sex offender I ran as fast as I could when I got pregnant the day our son was born DHS opened a case that lasted 20 months and at the end despite the fact that during that process dad was diagnosed with Antisocial personality disorder he was still granted unsupervised visit which I hate.. He also lives with his GF and her two very young girls clearly something wrong with her to allow this, but this weekend we had to take a very long road trip out of state, and his dad offered to allow us to use his IPad so that my son could watch TV and play games which I was like thank god! But here’s the issues I’m having a very sickening feeling about when I went to YouTube to search for my sons favorite show the following topics popped up Relationships between stepdad and stepdaughter Fathers having sex with their stepdaughters People killing themselves People brutally killing other people People killing autistic kids (which my son was …

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How can I get my kids last name hyphenated?

My children have my ex’s last name. We split up, and I would like to hyphenate their names with his last name and mine. How easy is this to do? I’m not trying to change their name to just mine; I just want to hyphenate it. The plan was to always end up with the same last name as my children as we were engaged, but now that that’s not happening, it doesn’t sit right with me that my children have no part of me as far as the last name is concerned. The process for doing this, and how easy was it to get done? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I left my husband due to abuse, when is it acceptable to see other people?

I left my husband towards the beginning of the year, due to him pushing me around and other stuff going on. From that point,I have managed to save money and get my own place, and I’m doing great. I am the happiest I have ever been to. I did mess up and met up with him and gave him 20.00 and some food due to him being on drugs. My question is, Can I see other people? I have not lived with him since February. I have heard different stories as too I can’t because he can get me from adultery, then I heard I can as long as I haven’t lived with him. I’m ready to move on and have fun. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My ex invited me trick or treating with our kids but I don’t know if I wanna go: Thoughts?

My kid’s father had invited me to go trick or treating with him and the kids seeing it’s his night, but every year before that, he was working, or it is my day to take them to trick or treating and he’d never show up. We use to be really good friends, and I use not to mind doing holidays with him, but now he has a significant other, and I just don’t feel like going. 1. because I had purchased the costumes he hadn’t pay for, and I feel like he’s inviting me cuz he feels guilty (either way, I wouldn’t send them without their costumes. 2. I feel like he wants me to go cause he just doesn’t actually wanna do the trick or treating part. But I want to go for the kids, but not with him. What do I do? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I drive 6 hours a weekend to take my son to his dads, he doesn’t even pay child support: Advice?

I have a five year old from a previous relationship who’s father moved over an hour away with his parents…. I’m taking my son back and forth every weekend, and he doesn’t. Even offer gas. He does NOT pay child support either. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of but also feel if I stopped, it would hurt my son. Really need advice on what to do because driving almost 6 hours a weekend is becoming very difficult seeing u have a newborn also. He does not have a vehicle, so meeting he is out the question. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My son no longer wants to visit his father anymore: Advice?

So kinda want advice on where I should start, or I guess if anyone else has experienced anything like this. Little back story, my kid’s dad didn’t come into his life until he was 1. In and out you till I wanna say maybe last year and a half started coming around. I agreed to every other weekend visit bc he was coming around and getting to know him, and we were co-parenting well. Every sense that started back in Jan, he has been a total jerk, ignoring me when I ask how he is when he has him, contacts me to start arguments, tells me not to contact him, or he will call cops. He cut my child’s hair without my permission. My child screams and cries every time its time to go to the house I literally have to force him out the door. He always knew his dad by his first name since. He was never around.. He was more of a friend to him who came by every once in a while.. Well now when he goes there, he is forced to call him dad, and he always tells me he don’t like that… Last weekend …

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My step-daughters mom talks badly about their father: What should we do?

My Stepdaughters are always telling us how much their mother hates their father and regrets him. My fiancé and I have been together for five years, he has two daughters when we met, I had two kids, and together we have one toddler. When we first met and got together, he had been broken up with her for over a year. She was still very clingy until we finally made our relationship official. She saw that and moved on too, found herself a bf of which she is still with (5 years later), and is now expecting. But I just feel so overprotective when I hear so much negativity from my stepdaughters repeating what their mother tells them. The girls have a whole different impression of their father, they are 11 and 10, and they love their father to death. But I can’t understand why she holds such a grudge towards him. Yeah, he’s told me how much of an a-hole he was to her and how he cheated on her, and she was always still there but despite all that – when I came into the picture she was always perfectly fine with him until like I said, we …

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I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t: Advice?

I’ve been with my now-husband for almost ten years in January. (since I was 15) We had our first kid at 17 together, got married at 18 then had another kid. We’ve been married for six years, but for a while I have been so resentful and just can’t stand anything he does or says or ANYTHING!! He knows how I feel, I’ve tried asking for a divorce… but he wants to keep trying every time. I always tell him we will, and we do. But this time I’m just so tired of the ups and downs. It’s not just that; he’s always been very controlling; it will never admit it. He hides my clothes he doesn’t like, gets mad when I do things without him, etc etc….. lots are BS I’ve delay with I feel like I’ve wasted so much time now:( Here’s my problem I have been a stay at home mom the whole time we’ve been together, (just had our third child 18 months ago) and I have no support besides him. What are my options? In the past, when I’ve asked for a divorce, he says he’s keeping the house and wants 50/50 custody of this …

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My ex thinks my child should go to school where he lives: Advice?

I had two beautiful children, and then their father and I split up, we had them, and I lived in his town for five years. I moved about 2 hours away to my hometown because financially, I needed to be with my family. The oldest child is starting kindergarten next year, and her dad keeps fighting with me about how she should go to school in his town and not with me. I think it is very important for them to have a relationship with their father, and I am in no way keeping him from seeing them, but I am happy being with my family. My kids love knowing their cousins and grandma here. I just want advice.. to see what people think about the situation.. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How can I change my childs last name in Tennessee?

Just a quick question. Does anyone know how had it is to change a child’s last name and to have the fathers rights/ took of the birth certificate is in the state of Tennessee? Also how long does it have to be before it’s classified as abandoned? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My ex is constantly causing drama and trying to make me jealous: What should I do?

What do you do about a co-parent who often causes problems for no reason? We broke up almost four years ago, and from day 1, he always tried to start drama and make me jealous. We broke up for good because he hooked up with my childhood friend, and also had an affair while I was pregnant with #2. He finally moved on about a year after we broke up, so I thought it would stop. But just today, out of the blue, he emailed me at least a dozen photos of himself and his new girlfriend together. He also sent a message declaring his love for her and saying he never loved me compared to her, that I’m ugly compared to her, and among just other unnecessary comments. Now, again, this was out of the blue. I haven’t talked to him since last pick up and as far as I knew everything was fine. This happens every now and then, even though I actually do my best to be extra nice to him and his girlfriend both. I invite them to parties, I’ve invited them to school functions, and I was also really generous in court considering his history …

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My childrens dad’s girlfriend tells my kids they can’t stay the night at their dads: Advice?

My kid’s dad and gf have a bad relationship from what I can tell. So last night, my kids were supposed to send the night with him so he could take them to school. He comes picks them up, and 20 mins later, he calls that he is bringing the kids back. So when my kids get home, they start telling me that his GF was a mean. And that’s why they couldn’t stay the night. And this happens a lot he’ll get them and then turns around and brings them back. I don’t want to keep my kids from their dad. But I Get frustrated cause they ask me why they can’t go. And also they just had a baby, and my daughter wanted to buy her new baby brother something, so we did. And last night his GF wouldn’t even take it Told my daughter that the baby has plenty. I mean, if she didn’t want, she could’ve still taken it and not hurt her feelings She was so excited to give him the things she picked out at the store. HELP Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain …

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My ex wants to keep our kid for 6 months straight: Advice?

I moved thousands of miles away and then found out I was pregnant. I had our baby, and he came down right after he was born. He’s not quite a year yet and has made one more trip to see him. But he has no idea when he’ll see him next. He made a lot of promises to us to be there, to do the right thing for us both, but then hasn’t. I told him I think the best thing in this situation would be to see about a relationship between us, and if it works great, and if not, at least we tried. I think it’s always best for a child to grow up in a home with both parents. He has a girlfriend now and does not want that, which I can respect. But he seems to think that he can be involved in our baby’s life when he’s old enough and can go to him. His idea was for me to raise him for six months, and then he can for six months. I don’t agree with that, and I’m not sure what other options we have in raising him so far apart. I’ve also expressed …

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My daughters bio dad wants to see her but I feel uncomfortable with it: Advice?

My daughter is six years old… her stepdad and I have been together for almost two years. Her bio “dad” came to our home over a year ago, causing a bunch of drama, which resulted in us having to get a restraining order. The RO stated that bio was allowed to call my daughter once a day at a certain time. He was ordered to go do an intake for supervised visits. He obviously failed to do so. His calls are getting fewer and further in between. My daughter doesn’t really speak to him but plays the games on the video chat more than anything. He has never paid a cent for child support, which was also court-ordered. He has a felony drug possession warrant. He has failed to get that taken care of but has begged me to let him see the baby. Baby’s stepdad and I are completely uncomfortable with that, and fear for hers and our safety. We want to get her last name changed, as well, but he won’t give me his address so I can have him served. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.