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I Am Pregnant With My 4th Baby And I Want To Leave My Husband. I Don't Know If I Should Go Through With The Pregnancy: I Need Advice?

I Am Pregnant with My Fourth Baby and I Want to Leave My Husband. I Don’t Know if I Should Go Through with the Pregnancy: I Need Advice?

A wife and mother writes in looking for advice. She is pregnant with her fourth baby and she wants to leave her husband. She doesn’t want to keep the baby and is looking for advice.

My kids no longer want to visit their dad: Advice?

I live in North Dakota. As of right now, my EX and I share custody of our children. There has never been a Custody agreement put on paper; we were never married. Things are Changing, and my children are unhappy. They no longer want to go over there when it’s his time. Also, they have terrible attitudes when they come home. They never have any positive things to say about their time with him. My oldest makes a list of everything she misses when she home with me. I want to go for full custody, and I’ve been calling around, I filled out paperwork for legal aid and was turned down because the house makes to much. It would be just me fighting this fight and paying for it, but they want the entire income for everyone in the house. (we live with my bf) I know I can not afford this fight on my own. Does anyone have any advice for me? Anyone else been in this situation? How does this work? I just want my children to be happy! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I built up the courage to leave my husband and need support: Thoughts?

Last night, I finally built up the courage to tell my husband that I was finished with our marriage. I always told him to please try talking to me more, love me more, make me feel like I’m worth his time, give me some attention…. he still doesn’t. Enough is enough. He is shocked & upset, which I expected. He’s also hurt, which I ALSO expected. I’m hurt too. I can’t stand how he treats our girls. He pushes them away, doesn’t give them attention, no love, no affection between a father and his daughters, doesn’t play with them, doesn’t read books with them, he always yells…. again, enough is enough. I told him to try more, do more — still nothing. I AM LEAVING. I need to RUN. I don’t want to look back and regret it, saying things like “I should’ve left. I should’ve done this and that” DO IT NOW. Be on my own with the kids, and we’ll be happier. Right now, it’s really hard going through this.. one day at a time. Please tell me you’re going through this too. I really need support right now. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook …

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My husband is leaving me and I don’t know how to survive: Advice?

Hey, all you amazing Mamas, needing some kind and advice and real help. I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past two years my daughter is 5 in kindergarten now. My husband wants to separate and Idk how to survive. I have no job, no money of my own, and no family I can turn too. I live in NYC as well, which I can’t afford even a studio apartment. Please help I’m so depressed and hurt. I don’t know how to move on right now and survive. Thank you and God bless. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Advice on filing for divorce?

My husband and I have been married for seven years, and I want to go through with a divorce. We had a four-year-old daughter, and I make enough on my own that I don’t qualify for child care assistance, but don’t make enough to pay the mortgage, 195 a wk for child care, food, and bills. My husband makes double what I make, and so he currently pays all the bills and costs. Because he is a subcontractor, he itemizes his taxes and pays his taxes at the end of the year, which due to writing everything off, he makes less than what I make in the paper. I am afraid that although he has a lot in savings, I will not see a dime in alimony or child support. He gets his checks and, at the end of the year, pays taxes owed, so how would he pay me child support if on paper he isn’t making any money, but he really is. I’m afraid to get a divorce and be in the worst spot that I know. The reason I want a divorce is that he likes to stay with his brothers after work and drink heavily and …

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What is the process of my kids dad signing away his rights?

Hi well I had a question, I have two kids a 1.5-year-old boy and an almost-four-year-old girl when I was pregnant with my second I left their dad due to cheating well we were living in Mexico with him, and when that happened I moved back to Colorado he stayed with the girl and had their son a month ago he called me today saying that him and his wife thought it was better for him to sign away his rights since he is on their birth certificates and I need signed letters from him for like passports, school, traveling, etc. and he doesn’t want any more contact with us I said yeah it was better that way since he doesn’t call or help or have seen my kids a year. My question is, how do I start that process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Can he be removed from their birth certificates and have his last name removed too? And if it’s possible to remove his last name, should I? I don’t think it’s fair to do that to my kids, but my family is saying by signing his rights it means he doesn’t care Anonymous Community …

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Am I entitled to alimony?

I want to ask the group an anonymous question, please. I have been a stay at home mom for the past six years. I have been with my husband for like 17 years and married for ten years. He and I will be separating, but I have no source of income. My husband has been the provider since I became a stay at home mom. Can I ask the court for him to pay alimony? I realize it’s different from state to state, and I live in Virginia. I know I will need to get a job; that’s not an issue. But as of right now, I don’t have any income. I’m emotionally drained and have never been through this before. Any advice or good vibes would be greatly appreciated. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Needing advice on filing for divorce

My husband has cheated on me. I tried forgiving but can’t so willing to divorce him. Thing is we still live in the same house. What’s the procedure for filing a divorce? What do I need to know? I have googled but need direct step by step advice from someone who been through this. I have three kids. Please, no judgment. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My ex does nothing for the kids: Advice?

I’m going through a tough decision that I need help with. I’ve been separated from my kid’s father for almost 2 yrs. Since separating, he has not done much for the kids. I’ve taken him to court and was granted every other week. Well, that all lasted like three months, then it was like I need help with a sitter, so I kept them four him. Well, I moved about 30 miles away almost a year ago and got the kids in daycare in my area (since I always have them). I’ve asked him a couple of times if he can pay every other week, and he been saying he needs the money for Christmas. I always told him well I need money for Christmas 2, and he just laughs. Now mind you, I live on my own too as where he is still living with mom and pops. Will I be wrong if I tell him I’m moving back home to have help if he don’t change by the time my lease is up Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Needing advice on how to leave my childs father?

I’m just curious how mamas with two small children found the courage to leave? My kids are 3 and 1, and their dad is a complete asshole. I forgave him for cheating on me while I was pregnant with our youngest and regret it every day. Just as an example of his behavior yesterday, he called me lazy and accused me of cheating on him because I didn’t go grocery shopping. Anyways, I’m terrified to leave because I have no familial support here, but I want out. I don’t want my kids thinking this is normal or acceptable behavior. Thanks, mamas. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Can I put a stop to my request for child support?

So my partner and I are separating. We are not married. We have a child together and another on the way. I sent out an application to the AOG (attorney general office) to get child support. We do not have a court order yet. So it’s just the application I sent off. We have decided to make the payments without trying to involve the AOG, but how do I go about it? Do I call and withdraw my application? Since there is no court order set out, I was wondering if that would even be a possibility. Can anyone shine some light on this situation for me? I’m in Texas btw if that helps. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My exes wife hates me and I just want a civil relationship: Advice?

I and my baby daddy have been separated for eight years, he is married now, and I’m engaged to be married. We have always had custody/child support issues, and we have 0 communication only when he’s on his way for our son or little Things here and there. His wife HATES ME like she cannot stand me, mind you they got together two years after we separated, so there was never any cheating or anything. She doesn’t say hi, she doesn’t let him talk to me, and sometimes she even belittles my son. I have tried in the past to talk to my baby daddy and try to make peace for our son. She has a son of her own whom my son loves to be with. I just want to have a mature relationship where we can do things together like bday parties or celebrations when my son gets an award..all together! His family loves me, and we have a great relationship, so with them, it’s absolutely no problem! The problem is her, and the fact that he listens to her! My fiancée messes around and says my baby daddy still probably loves me, but I just think he …

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My ex brought other women around my kids while we were together: Can I use that in court?

Ever since my soon-to-be ex-husband moved out, my daughter’s have been telling me of the women he would bring over. They are four and 6yo, so the conversations usually go something like, “.. dad’s old girlfriend..etc. etc.” There is one woman I specifically used to ask him about, and he would get mad and accuse me of not letting him have friends. My question is, I am filing for full custody because he has repeatedly abandoned us over the years, leaving me to care for our children financially and every other way- if I brought this up as part of my argument in court, will it have any effect? As far as gaining custody, has anyone ever had the odds in their favor because of the spouse cheating? If so, how? Thanks in advance. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My daughter doesn;t want to talk to her father: Advice?

Any advice will help. My eight year old is refusing to speak to her father. Every time my phone rings and his name pops up, she huffs and says No, or she will jerk her head and shoulder real snotty and just turn away like she is ignoring the fact that I told her he is calling. It has gradually gotten worse since she got back from his house in July. She visits him for one month every year because he lives up north and we live down south. Due to “financial difficulties and the travel difficulties,” he only sees her for the one month of the year. A month ago she told him she didn’t want to come to his house for the summer and she wanted to stay at my house for the whole summer. She tried in her nicest way to tell him, and he, of course, turned around and made her feel just awful. My daughter has had a rough few years with trusting adults, and them making her feel like crap and putting her into an all-time low. Instead of him trying to make things better, he hung up with her, feeling extremely upset. Now …

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