A mom writes in asking for advice about her child’s grandparents who gave cow’s milk to her daughter, despite her telling them not to. This mom only gives her daughter water and almond milk, but her parents gave her daughter cow’s milk, which caused her to have diarrhea. How should this mom handle the situation with her parents?
A member of the community asks:
“My grandparents didn’t listen to my rule about not giving my child cow‘s milk: Advice?
If a grandparent is taking care of your child while you’re at work, and you ask that they only drink water and almond milk — no juices, cows milk, etc. — and you find out they have given your child cow’s milk, and she has diarrhea everywhere, what would you do? I’ve explained to her numerous times why I don’t want her drinking cows milk, but I also feel I shouldn’t have to justify my parenting decisions.”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Child’s Grandparents Gave Her Daughter Cow’s Milk Despite Being Told Not To
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Supply the almond milk and explain, again, that cow’s milk gives her explosive diarrhea. If they continue, then find someone else to watch her.”
“More info is needed. Are you providing all the child’s dietary needs while at the grandparents or are you telling them what to use but making them buy it all? I understand your wishes but if you are making them buy it all then you’re going to have to accept that maybe they can’t afford it and will then feed the child what they have available.”
“They should not be giving it to her but maybe it is all they had. I would suggest that you talk to Grandma again and send her groceries you want them to give your child. You can’t expect them to purchase separate groceries for when they babysit for you.”
“My kid is lactose intolerant to cow’s milk. I’d be very angry because that affects your child severely. My kid complains about his belly hurting & gets very uncomfortable when he drinks regular milk. That’s not fair to you or your child to go through that.”
“Put your child in daycare or stay home. I don’t agree with what they did but, that’s the chance you take when someone else cares for you children.”
“If you are supplying all the almond milk or other things you want your child to eat and drink, then there is a problem. If you are not supplying, cost might be the issue.”
“Make it very clear that this is your kid and these are your rules. I’m assuming these are her doctor’s orders too since she has this reaction to cows milk. Diarrhea can dehydrate her and they are doing more harm than good. If they can’t understand that, they don’t need to be watching her.”
“I told the grandparents if they did it again they would be keeping my screaming boys overnight! Magically they never did it again! Thank god! Our doctor’s recommendation was to try it once every 6 months on them… ehhh, no thanks, I’ll wait it out for a while screaming boys all night long in pain is rough, not only on me but on them bc then they want to sleep most the next day and schedule is all messed up!”
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