While competing on ABC’s Dancing With the Stars last fall, James Van Der Beek and his wife, Kimberly, revealed that they had suffered a miscarriage after learning they were pregnant with their sixth child. After publicly announcing their pregnancy, Van Der Beek told the Dancing With the Stars’ cameras that “my wife Kimberly and I went through every expecting parent’s worst nightmare. We lost the baby.”
On Instagram, the father of five wrote that he was “wrecked. Devastated. In shock,” before revealing that the baby they had just lost was expected to be born in April 2020. “We’ve been through this before, but never this late in the pregnancy, and never accompanied by such a scary, horrific threat to Kimberly and her well-being,” Van Der Beek wrote.
Thankfully, Kimberly Van Der Beek was able to recover.
Sadly, the couple learned they were pregnant again 17 weeks ago. And now they are going through the same experience again.
“After suffering a brutal, very public miscarriage last November, we were overjoyed to learn we were pregnant. This time, we kept the news to ourselves. But last weekend, once again, 17 weeks in… the soul we’d been excited to welcome into the world had lessons for our family that did not include joining us in a living physical body.”
According to Van Der Beek, Kimberly was rushed “to the hospital by ambulance for another harrowing night of blood transfusions.” And as the then-helpless husband watched as medical professionals saved her life there was that something kept running through his head, he shared in his Instagram post. And now it is something he feels “compelled to share.”
“We’ve got to take better care of each other. The world is in pain right now. There’s denial, shock, numbness, anger – all the old patterns we cling to when deep trauma is unearthed. And there are no words to ease that pain… to make the process hurt less or to solve it quickly. But the way out of it? Starts with an open, broken-hearted contemplation of this question, How can we take better care of each other? And to all the families who have gone through this… you are not alone.”
Kimberly has not yet opened up about the miscarriage herself, but our thoughts and prayers are with the Van Der Beek family during this difficult time.
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