A mom writes in asking for advice after her fiancé was arrested for being in possession of drugs while on probation. He was extradited to another state. Now she’s wondering if anyone else had been in a similar situation and if they have any advice for her.
A member of the community asks:
“I am not looking to be told I need to leave him or that he’s not a good man. Please, I’m just looking for a little bit of comfort. My fiancé is in jail right now for a VOP for a possession charge of fewer than 20 grams of cocaine.
He was arrested in Delaware and extradited back to Florida just today. He has a long track record of being in trouble, but I guess what I’m trying to find out, has anybody had any experience with a husband, a friend, a relative, or something being in jail, and how long should I expect him to be in there?“
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Fiancé Was Arrested and Extradited on Drug Charges
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One commenter shared, “Depends if this is his first VOP. That’s 90 days then he has to serve whatever he gets for the new case. That’s how it works in my County in PA. Each county has different guidelines. Whatever his PO recommends is what he’ll do for the VOP.”
Another person wrote, “If they had him picked up in Delaware to send to Florida than they plan to keep him for a while they wouldn’t pay to have him transferred to Florida for a weeks sentence.”
And one woman added, “Every state is different. Held down my ex for almost 4 years. He was a 5th time convicted felon in Louisiana. He got lucky. He had a bad past and a lengthy record. He was given 8 years. Served 3 and 5 on paper.”
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