A mom writes in asking for advice about having a second baby shower. She says she is expecting her second child, a boy, this summer, and is wondering what she should do about throwing a shower. She is not especially interested in gifts but might want to throw a gathering to celebrate the baby’s arrival anyway. But it seems many have told her that having a second baby shower is unnecessary, causing her to feel bad.
A member of the community asks:
“What are your opinions on having a second baby shower?
What’s your opinion on having a 2nd baby shower? I had one for my daughter two years ago, and I’m due with a boy in August, and I wanted to have a little get together to celebrate him too. I don’t even care about the gifts, but I’ve been getting a lot of hate saying I don’t need a baby shower for my 2nd child.”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Wants to Know if She Should Have a Second Baby Shower
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“I was under the impression each baby gets a baby shower. I have friends who even had multiples per baby (depends on the family) whoever is hating doesn’t have to go. You do you, momma!”
“Not needed with baby 2. I didn’t have a second one. 1st is a boy, 2nd a girl. Baby showers don’t even celebrate the baby lmao. The baby isn’t there and doesn’t care. It’s celebrating the mother’s impending motherhood journey and giving her gifts that other mothers have found useful in their own mothering. If it’s really about celebrating the baby for you, have a meet the baby party once baby’s here and everyone can meet it.”
“I hate that some ppl even open their mouths to say this!!! Every baby gets a baby shower… it’s not designated to Just the first child… I’m having my 4th and FIRST boy and I’ll definitely be having one.”
“Oh honey, he is important too and your REAL PEOPLE will not hate on you for having a second, third, or even fourth baby shower. Haters would not need to be invited so you’ll have a fabulous time…”
“Um… I just found out I’m pregnant 2 days ago and I’ll be danged if someone is going to tell me I can’t have a second baby shower! A baby is a baby and therefore mom deserves to have a baby shower if she wants one!”
“I’m having my second baby and we are just having a “sprinkle”. Small amount of people, snacks, and just a fun time together. No gifts necessary.”
“I will go to every one of my friends’ baby showers for so many reasons. I want to celebrate their babies and they may need baby stuff. What’s the big deal? I love them, I love their babies, let’s party!”
“I had a baby shower for my second, and I had two boys. I wanted one just to celebrate having another child, not for gifts. But if you’re having a girl there is stuff you can’t reuse like clothes and some bedding/blankets. In my invitations I put “gifts are appreciated but not expected” and kept the registry really limited to things we needed for a new baby; diapers, wipes, a new car seat, and a new baby monitor. But people LOVE buying baby things and we got way more than we asked for!”
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