A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner, who is also the father of her child. She says he was recently diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD). It seems this news came as a surprise to this mom. She is asking for thoughts and advice from the community: Does anyone have advice to share about living with a partner with ADD/ADHD? Any words of wisdom?
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A member of the community asks:
“My partner has ADD/ADHD: Advice?
Has anyone had to deal with a partner who has ADD? We recently found out my partner, the father of my child has it. We have had our issues in the past but never knew this was the case. How has it affected your relationship? Any input, advice, words of wisdom are appreciated.”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Partner Was Recently Diagnosed with ADD/ADHD
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Patience. ADD sucks so hard. Try looking into tips and tricks that work for your household together. It’s more than not paying attention. It’s so so so much more than that. And it invades every single part of your life…”
“It affects our relationship from time to time because part of it with him is he gets in his head a lot and overthink things and has trouble opening up. But it’s manageable. And it’s a commitment, you gotta be willing to work with him and be patient when he’s having a hard day.”
“It’s very hard … and sucks .. but is manageable with work.”
“Patience. Lots & Lots of Patience. Do your research on It. It really helps to understand. Single mom of 2 sons with ADD. We have survived! PS it is also hereditary.”
“I have it and the best thing is to be patient with him and show him love and always remind him everything will be ok and that y’all will get through it together. Don’t get mad over the things he does because it’s out of our control. Just keep reassuring him that he’s not alone and that you’ll always be there if he needs to talk.”
“Try having ADHD too. Almost like ADD. Memory loss, overthinking, can’t focus well, bored easily, can’t sleep well, toss and turn, sometimes stutters when talking fast, hard to slow down. …. it sucks too. Depression and anxiety don’t help either…
… My partner has some patients and sometimes doesn’t understand. And it’s hard for me to explain. But we manage by talking it out.”
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