A mom writes in asking for advice about having another child. She says she and her husband have five children, three of whom are his from a previous relationship. She wants one more of their own, and she says money is not an issue. Her husband, however, refuses to entertain the idea.
A member of the community asks:
“I want more kids and my husband doesn’t: Advice? I am my husband’s second wife. He had three children in his first marriage. We now have two together- equaling five together. All five children are the same sex. The husband refuses any more children, while I desperately want one more. Any thoughts or advice? How can a couple of compromise on something that is the polar opposite? (Financially we can afford all of our children.)”
Community Advice for This Mom Who Wants One More Child But Whose Husband Does Not
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The community offered this mom in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below.
“Time to get a divorce and find someone willing to have another child.”
“If he won’t do it, someone else will.”
“5 kids is a lot of kids.”
“My husband didn’t for the longest time. We talked extensively about it. We came to an agreement that we would try for one more but we’d wait till our others were in school and older. We compromised. After this one, we are done. It took time but when he realized how much I really honestly wanted one more he came around.”
“One of you will get what they want. The other won’t. Figure out what will work best for your family.”
“If one partner doesn’t want more, you shouldn’t have more, IMO. You can certainly keep discussing it, but a child deserves 2 parents that want him or her.”
“He’s supporting 7 people…money only goes so far. Child support, rent, bills, clothes, car, car insurance, food… the list is endless.”
“That’s a lot of kids. I don’t blame him for not wanting 6. You knew how many kids he had when you dated him so it can’t come to a crazy surprise that he doesn’t want more.”
“I suggest fostering children; that will fulfill your needs.”
“By compromise, you mean how can you get what you want? Because this is a situation where it’s either have another child or don’t. Perhaps take into consideration his feelings as well…”
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